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Dear Missie,

I have a few questions for you to better try to help you...
What part of the country do you live in?
Are you afraid that he will harm you/your daughter/or himself if you leave him?

It seems as though your mind is made up about leaving him since you have been dealing with this for a while now. So, suggesting intensive therapy just wouldn't help the situation because of the lack of consistency on his behalf, correct?

Because of his suicide threats and lack of respect for you, I would definitely get some professional help as far as actually pulling through with the decision to leave. Do you also have a therapist? If not, I think that with the emotional abuse he has burdened you with you would benefit from having a professional listen to you.

Before you leave though, please help him get hospitalized for the suicide threats. I know that sometimes we think that people say empty threats, but in a down-and-out moment where his fiance and daughter have left him-- suicide is not out of the question especially when he has told you that he will do it.

Once he has been helped with his suicidal thoughts, then I think either you can give him one more try if you love him or you can then decide that it is time to move on with your daughter.

I am going to try to get others to give you some more input on your situation and I'm very sorry you're going through this at the moment.