Pat and Susan gave you wonderful advice, and I agree with them 100 percent.
I just wanted to echo YOUR instinct that this relationship seems abusive. No loving partner ever insists that "My Way Or The Highway." It's just not the way it works. A relationship needs to be between two people who are equals in the relationship. If you are making money and part of it goes to support your parents, that is your decision alone. If your partner wants a certain kind of sex and you do not, that is your decision to make. If he yells at you or calls you names, yes, that is emotional abuse. If he threatens you physically or ever hits or pushes you, that's physical abuse. And if he makes you do things sexually -- ever -- that you did not want to do, that's sexual abuse. Plain and simple.
At 24, you have your whole life ahead of you. You are feeling trapped in several situations -- your parents, your job, your relationship -- and I think it's natural that you are questioning why you are feeling so down. You sound like a giving, thoughtful person and I think you would benefit very much from talk therapy. Are you interested in this? Do you need help finding professional counselors or doctors in your area? If so, let us know your city and state and we can help you with some resources.
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MimiJo,
Pat and Susan gave you wonderful advice, and I agree with them 100 percent.
I just wanted to echo YOUR instinct that this relationship seems abusive. No loving partner ever insists that "My Way Or The Highway." It's just not the way it works. A relationship needs to be between two people who are equals in the relationship. If you are making money and part of it goes to support your parents, that is your decision alone. If your partner wants a certain kind of sex and you do not, that is your decision to make. If he yells at you or calls you names, yes, that is emotional abuse. If he threatens you physically or ever hits or pushes you, that's physical abuse. And if he makes you do things sexually -- ever -- that you did not want to do, that's sexual abuse. Plain and simple.
At 24, you have your whole life ahead of you. You are feeling trapped in several situations -- your parents, your job, your relationship -- and I think it's natural that you are questioning why you are feeling so down. You sound like a giving, thoughtful person and I think you would benefit very much from talk therapy. Are you interested in this? Do you need help finding professional counselors or doctors in your area? If so, let us know your city and state and we can help you with some resources.
February 1, 2010 - 11:25amThis Comment
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