You were very blunt, but you know what, I think we all need that. I have found that a lot of people try to sugar coat most things because we confuse blunt with mean. I appreciate your honesty, it made me look at myself and re-examine what it is that I want from my relationship.
I have spoken to my fiance, I have shared some of my fears with him. I'm sad that he is at work right now. But in talking to him I realized that he has just as many fears and concerns as I do. For example I'm very excited about getting married, if it were up to me we would be married June 18th, and he is a little weary (not sure if that is best word, but that is what comes to mind)but he is a little weary of that because he feels like life is coming at him really fast. He graduates in May and I'm constantly talking about getting married in June ( just one month later), further more his mother is dying to be a grandmother and everyday she talks about it. Having a baby would not be the worst thing in the world but right now we are not ready for that, so the thought of sex also bring on the thought of a baby (such a turn off) So with that, school and work, sex seems to be the very last thing on his mind.
Sigh, I never realized that he had all of that on his mind, we really need to work on communication skills!
Another thing that you said earlier really stood out to me...you said that we need to have time together and time alone, but we really don't have much alone time. We are always with each other, his family talks about that all the time. I mean we have friends outside of each other, but when we are with them we are always with them together.
(it's amazing how it sometimes takes a complete stranger to open your eyes)
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You were very blunt, but you know what, I think we all need that. I have found that a lot of people try to sugar coat most things because we confuse blunt with mean. I appreciate your honesty, it made me look at myself and re-examine what it is that I want from my relationship.
I have spoken to my fiance, I have shared some of my fears with him. I'm sad that he is at work right now. But in talking to him I realized that he has just as many fears and concerns as I do. For example I'm very excited about getting married, if it were up to me we would be married June 18th, and he is a little weary (not sure if that is best word, but that is what comes to mind)but he is a little weary of that because he feels like life is coming at him really fast. He graduates in May and I'm constantly talking about getting married in June ( just one month later), further more his mother is dying to be a grandmother and everyday she talks about it. Having a baby would not be the worst thing in the world but right now we are not ready for that, so the thought of sex also bring on the thought of a baby (such a turn off) So with that, school and work, sex seems to be the very last thing on his mind.
Sigh, I never realized that he had all of that on his mind, we really need to work on communication skills!
Another thing that you said earlier really stood out to me...you said that we need to have time together and time alone, but we really don't have much alone time. We are always with each other, his family talks about that all the time. I mean we have friends outside of each other, but when we are with them we are always with them together.
(it's amazing how it sometimes takes a complete stranger to open your eyes)
February 14, 2010 - 12:13pmThis Comment
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