In my experience, it's been mostly other women who've penalized me for preferring casual encounters and serious polyamorous relationships to the monogamy we're told we have to have. It's also been mainly other women who've judged me for not wanting children and for choosing to be sterilized. It seems girls are the worst for bullying other girls who do not conform to the correct fashion trends in schools, too. We all need to remember that different lifestyles work for different people.
Oh, and I think we need to be realistic about expecting employers to pay 1 years maternity leave as well as the wages for cover staff. If you choose to have kids and take a lot of time out, it's not fair on your employer to fill the gap of an experienced employee, and pay maternity, and let you work weird shifts when you get back, and let you disappear every time your kid gets sick. It's also not fair on your colleagues with no children, or older kids, who have to pick up the slack. I mean, a lady in my office was paid for 6 years full time work, and had 3 of those off for maternity, and frequently left early without telling anyone. And she constantly brought the babies in to work without warning and caused a lot of disruption.
I mean, obviously several employers are pretty selfish, but so are some mothers. If I take 3 years out of work I wouldn't expect to be paid for it. Consideration from both sides would be nice.
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In my experience, it's been mostly other women who've penalized me for preferring casual encounters and serious polyamorous relationships to the monogamy we're told we have to have. It's also been mainly other women who've judged me for not wanting children and for choosing to be sterilized. It seems girls are the worst for bullying other girls who do not conform to the correct fashion trends in schools, too. We all need to remember that different lifestyles work for different people.
Oh, and I think we need to be realistic about expecting employers to pay 1 years maternity leave as well as the wages for cover staff. If you choose to have kids and take a lot of time out, it's not fair on your employer to fill the gap of an experienced employee, and pay maternity, and let you work weird shifts when you get back, and let you disappear every time your kid gets sick. It's also not fair on your colleagues with no children, or older kids, who have to pick up the slack. I mean, a lady in my office was paid for 6 years full time work, and had 3 of those off for maternity, and frequently left early without telling anyone. And she constantly brought the babies in to work without warning and caused a lot of disruption.
I mean, obviously several employers are pretty selfish, but so are some mothers. If I take 3 years out of work I wouldn't expect to be paid for it. Consideration from both sides would be nice.
June 23, 2010 - 3:38amThis Comment
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