I am sorry you are going through this, but it does sound like talking with a therapist will help you immensely! Many adult children have difficulties with their parents not letting them grow up, but it really is the adult child's responsibility to say "enough!" and to demonstrate to their parents that they are, indeed, responsible adults.
Your parents actions are harsh, and a therapist can work with you to begin trusting in yourself. It sounds like you believe many of the things your parents have said, and are questioning the merit of each of these things (you are stupid, a liar, too immature to be independent, not able to marry, not able to go places, etc). This is a GREAT place to be--questioning--and every adult child must go through this process. This is where the therapist can help you determine what is fact in your life, versus your parent's opinion that you have the right to disagree with.
Please keep us updated once you meet with the therapist, and also finding support groups in your area can also help. Do you have friends whom are also deaf? Contact the association Susan suggested, and you can attend groups with other adults who are deaf, and learn how they became independent and self-confident.
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I am sorry you are going through this, but it does sound like talking with a therapist will help you immensely! Many adult children have difficulties with their parents not letting them grow up, but it really is the adult child's responsibility to say "enough!" and to demonstrate to their parents that they are, indeed, responsible adults.
Your parents actions are harsh, and a therapist can work with you to begin trusting in yourself. It sounds like you believe many of the things your parents have said, and are questioning the merit of each of these things (you are stupid, a liar, too immature to be independent, not able to marry, not able to go places, etc). This is a GREAT place to be--questioning--and every adult child must go through this process. This is where the therapist can help you determine what is fact in your life, versus your parent's opinion that you have the right to disagree with.
Please keep us updated once you meet with the therapist, and also finding support groups in your area can also help. Do you have friends whom are also deaf? Contact the association Susan suggested, and you can attend groups with other adults who are deaf, and learn how they became independent and self-confident.
March 17, 2011 - 8:38amThis Comment
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