Hi ElleJay,
You have definitely gone through a great deal of thinking through your problem...that is great!
As an outsider, I see one big assumption that you are making, that may/may not be true:
- What if you DO find someone who compares to this current boyfriend, who actually has all of the Pros...plus some...and non of the Cons you listed?
Does that change your perception? If this assumption is correct...does it change your behavior or actions?
Of course, no one is perfect; every person will have their list of cons. What is important in any relationship is: are the cons that come along with this particular person something you can live with? Are your pros/cons and his pros/cons compatible with each other? What is important to you in a relationship in general that you are not willing to budge or compromise on?
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Hi ElleJay,
You have definitely gone through a great deal of thinking through your problem...that is great!
As an outsider, I see one big assumption that you are making, that may/may not be true:
- What if you DO find someone who compares to this current boyfriend, who actually has all of the Pros...plus some...and non of the Cons you listed?
Does that change your perception? If this assumption is correct...does it change your behavior or actions?
Of course, no one is perfect; every person will have their list of cons. What is important in any relationship is: are the cons that come along with this particular person something you can live with? Are your pros/cons and his pros/cons compatible with each other? What is important to you in a relationship in general that you are not willing to budge or compromise on?
February 25, 2010 - 1:15pmThis Comment
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