I'm sorry you are going through this. This is a complicated issue, and there is no one good answer. I can say that every person has a different sex drive. Some people want a lot of sex, others can live completely without it. Differing sex drives can cause issues in a relationship, as you are seeing. It doesn't mean you can't stay together, but it is something you will need to be able to communicate about and come to some kind of agreement on.
Couples counseling would be very helpful in your situation. I know you said you don't have a lot of money, but do you have insurance? Counseling may be covered. There are also community clinics in most areas that do counseling based on income. That could be helpful. Counseling can bring issues with intimacy into the open in a way that can be harder to do on your own.
There are physical and emotional issues that can affect sex drive. The best thing you can do is keep communication open and talk with your boyfriend about what you each need to get out of a relationship. Never feel bad about your needs. They are what they are, and if they aren't met, it causes problems. That's part of being human.
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Hi Adelaide7-
I'm sorry you are going through this. This is a complicated issue, and there is no one good answer. I can say that every person has a different sex drive. Some people want a lot of sex, others can live completely without it. Differing sex drives can cause issues in a relationship, as you are seeing. It doesn't mean you can't stay together, but it is something you will need to be able to communicate about and come to some kind of agreement on.
Couples counseling would be very helpful in your situation. I know you said you don't have a lot of money, but do you have insurance? Counseling may be covered. There are also community clinics in most areas that do counseling based on income. That could be helpful. Counseling can bring issues with intimacy into the open in a way that can be harder to do on your own.
There are physical and emotional issues that can affect sex drive. The best thing you can do is keep communication open and talk with your boyfriend about what you each need to get out of a relationship. Never feel bad about your needs. They are what they are, and if they aren't met, it causes problems. That's part of being human.
March 22, 2010 - 6:52amThis Comment
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