I am familiar with your position. I also had a relationship that was very similar. My best advise to you would be to talk to him. Your relationship is very new and there is always that awkward time of getting to know each other and knowing each other's quirks. Sit him down and tell him, “You turn me on so much that I want to have sex with you constantly.” I am sure he will love to hear that.
I think it is funny your iteration about what you would like him to do to you. Tell him. He may be holding back himself thinking the same thing about you. Make a day where you can make him dinner, dress up nice and seduce him. Table talk about what you enjoy about sex and what your expecting out of the relationship. In my past relationships, men do not understand 'hint' language that we tend to utilize. They do not understand that when we lay next to them in a spooning position and try to position our buttocks up against them, this is a clue that we want them to initiate something. Instead, they will cuddle, right?
Lay what you are expecting from him out....in plain language...no hints. Make your conversation short and to the point. He will understand. As for the gentleman that chimed in on this post too, try the same thing on your new woman. Be very careful about blaming the lack of sex on your new girlfriend, instead explain how much you feel about her and that you want to be with her. Women will take this is talk in a good way or a bad way. Women do not want to hear that their man is lacking in sex. We want our men to be fully satisfied and trying to carefully talk to her about it, will make a huge difference. When things are new in a relationship, you must let your partner know what you are expecting from them. Could you both keep us posted?
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Hi Strung,
I am familiar with your position. I also had a relationship that was very similar. My best advise to you would be to talk to him. Your relationship is very new and there is always that awkward time of getting to know each other and knowing each other's quirks. Sit him down and tell him, “You turn me on so much that I want to have sex with you constantly.” I am sure he will love to hear that.
I think it is funny your iteration about what you would like him to do to you. Tell him. He may be holding back himself thinking the same thing about you. Make a day where you can make him dinner, dress up nice and seduce him. Table talk about what you enjoy about sex and what your expecting out of the relationship. In my past relationships, men do not understand 'hint' language that we tend to utilize. They do not understand that when we lay next to them in a spooning position and try to position our buttocks up against them, this is a clue that we want them to initiate something. Instead, they will cuddle, right?
Lay what you are expecting from him out....in plain language...no hints. Make your conversation short and to the point. He will understand. As for the gentleman that chimed in on this post too, try the same thing on your new woman. Be very careful about blaming the lack of sex on your new girlfriend, instead explain how much you feel about her and that you want to be with her. Women will take this is talk in a good way or a bad way. Women do not want to hear that their man is lacking in sex. We want our men to be fully satisfied and trying to carefully talk to her about it, will make a huge difference. When things are new in a relationship, you must let your partner know what you are expecting from them. Could you both keep us posted?
March 27, 2010 - 8:50amThis Comment
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