I am very sorry you have to suffer from the loss of a terminated pregnancy and now having relationship problems as well. I cannot tell you that he is cheating, no one can unless they know your boyfriend personally and have seen him cheating. A woman's heart and instinct knows best and if you feel that there is no one else and that the problem is definitely something else, then you are probably dead on. The problem here is that your boyfriend seems very unwilling to talk about the situation, perhaps approaching it from a different direction is best? Try asking him if there is something you two can work on, as a couple, to improve your sex life? Honestly, his statement "if you tell a guy to do something he's not going to do it" seems rather defensive. Has he been under a lot of stress lately? Work? School? Could it be that he is just avoiding sex for now since it's so soon after the termination of pregnancy? It could be that he is just psychologically not ready for sex or he may be afraid of getting you pregnant again. It has only been around 2 months since this and even if you had sex after January, it may have made him feel inadequate, uncomfortable, or worried about having to go through this painful situation again.
If you can't get an answer out of him, give him some time. That may be just what he needs.
Good Luck to you! Sending positive wishes your way.
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Hi sls014,
I am very sorry you have to suffer from the loss of a terminated pregnancy and now having relationship problems as well. I cannot tell you that he is cheating, no one can unless they know your boyfriend personally and have seen him cheating. A woman's heart and instinct knows best and if you feel that there is no one else and that the problem is definitely something else, then you are probably dead on. The problem here is that your boyfriend seems very unwilling to talk about the situation, perhaps approaching it from a different direction is best? Try asking him if there is something you two can work on, as a couple, to improve your sex life? Honestly, his statement "if you tell a guy to do something he's not going to do it" seems rather defensive. Has he been under a lot of stress lately? Work? School? Could it be that he is just avoiding sex for now since it's so soon after the termination of pregnancy? It could be that he is just psychologically not ready for sex or he may be afraid of getting you pregnant again. It has only been around 2 months since this and even if you had sex after January, it may have made him feel inadequate, uncomfortable, or worried about having to go through this painful situation again.
If you can't get an answer out of him, give him some time. That may be just what he needs.
Good Luck to you! Sending positive wishes your way.
March 28, 2010 - 6:26amThis Comment
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