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If you're not enjoying sex, or if you don't have time to have sex, what business do you have having kids?

It can be sad and frustrating when couples with a healthy relationship want to have kids and have fertility problems, and I think fertility problems are an important topic and worth discussing, but sometimes when I read posts like this, I think...how is this relevant to anything? Isn't this skirting the issue?

If sex is a chore (which usually seems to happen more for the woman, although it can also be the other way around), it's a sign that something is wrong...bad communication, often a male partner who is selfish and unempathetic. Or it could be that one or both partner is struggling with depression or stressful life circumstances that are interfering with their sex drive. And if a couple doesn't have time to have sex a lot, how in the world are they going to have time to raise kids? Whatever the case may be, these are issues that need to be addressed and worked out before you even think about having kids. They will surface later...and raising kids can be one of the most difficult and stressful things; if it's already bad now, it'll just get worse.

April 14, 2010 - 8:09am

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