Aside from recently being diagnosed with Epilepsy, has anything in your lives changed? Has your sex life been affected directly after you were diagnosed? If so, he may not understand the nature of your illness. You are no weirdo, but if he has seen you have a seizure it may be scary for him and he may not understand if and when you do get the epileptic attacks. This can very well be the reason why he doesn't want to have sex-- he may be afraid of causing an attack. If you can find a seminar on Seizures and Epilepsy that he'd be willing to go to...take him. If not, have a seat with him and bluntly ask him if that is what's keeping him from initiating or wanting sex with you and if so, school him on what it is and what causes it.
I can understand how this is rough on you, since you will be marrying this man. But the more he knows and understands what you are going through, the likelier you are to have a better relationship. If your Epilepsy is not the reason, then has he been working harder in preparation for the wedding? Could it be stress? Or something that he may need to go to the doctor to get evaluated about? Lots of factors affect a person's sex drive-- whether it is a man or a woman.
Unfortunately, I can only give you theories and ideas of what you can do-- and the best thing is to simply ask. If you have tried to be sexy and entice him by switching up the sex routine, then just ask him-- he is the only one that truly knows why he doesn't want to have sex.
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Hi Missy,
Aside from recently being diagnosed with Epilepsy, has anything in your lives changed? Has your sex life been affected directly after you were diagnosed? If so, he may not understand the nature of your illness. You are no weirdo, but if he has seen you have a seizure it may be scary for him and he may not understand if and when you do get the epileptic attacks. This can very well be the reason why he doesn't want to have sex-- he may be afraid of causing an attack. If you can find a seminar on Seizures and Epilepsy that he'd be willing to go to...take him. If not, have a seat with him and bluntly ask him if that is what's keeping him from initiating or wanting sex with you and if so, school him on what it is and what causes it.
I can understand how this is rough on you, since you will be marrying this man. But the more he knows and understands what you are going through, the likelier you are to have a better relationship. If your Epilepsy is not the reason, then has he been working harder in preparation for the wedding? Could it be stress? Or something that he may need to go to the doctor to get evaluated about? Lots of factors affect a person's sex drive-- whether it is a man or a woman.
Unfortunately, I can only give you theories and ideas of what you can do-- and the best thing is to simply ask. If you have tried to be sexy and entice him by switching up the sex routine, then just ask him-- he is the only one that truly knows why he doesn't want to have sex.
Wishing you the best of luck!
April 25, 2010 - 4:58pmThis Comment
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