Hey everyone... my boyfriend does not have erectile dysfunction, is not stressed, is not on any sort of drugs (legal or not) and is generally healthy. He says he is still attracted to me, and we actually had sex yesterday. But, the problem is, we only have sex MAXIMUM once a week, but more like once every couple weeks. We used to have sex every day and sometimes several times a day. I still want it like I used to. We were like that for a few years and now (5 years together, on and off) it's not like that anymore. We're great together, best friends and sexually attracted to each other, and we love each other dearly. He is very cuddly and affectionate with me, and he says he isn't sexually bored of me. We have discussed it many times and it usually ended up in some sort of argument or just me being hurt because I can't help but feel sexually unwanted sometimes. I don't ask for it every day, but every few days. I always initiate it now. The conclusions we came to having discussed it are two: 1) He says he is often aroused but suppresses it because he doesn't always want to, and 2) We have incompatible sex drives, and he says I want it all the time. Those two claims are incompatible to me. One says he has similar, if not the same sex drive I do, but consciously suppresses it, and the other says we simply don't have compatible libidos. What's the deal?
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Hey everyone... my boyfriend does not have erectile dysfunction, is not stressed, is not on any sort of drugs (legal or not) and is generally healthy. He says he is still attracted to me, and we actually had sex yesterday. But, the problem is, we only have sex MAXIMUM once a week, but more like once every couple weeks. We used to have sex every day and sometimes several times a day. I still want it like I used to. We were like that for a few years and now (5 years together, on and off) it's not like that anymore. We're great together, best friends and sexually attracted to each other, and we love each other dearly. He is very cuddly and affectionate with me, and he says he isn't sexually bored of me. We have discussed it many times and it usually ended up in some sort of argument or just me being hurt because I can't help but feel sexually unwanted sometimes. I don't ask for it every day, but every few days. I always initiate it now. The conclusions we came to having discussed it are two: 1) He says he is often aroused but suppresses it because he doesn't always want to, and 2) We have incompatible sex drives, and he says I want it all the time. Those two claims are incompatible to me. One says he has similar, if not the same sex drive I do, but consciously suppresses it, and the other says we simply don't have compatible libidos. What's the deal?
February 24, 2011 - 12:29pmThis Comment
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