I've really appreciated your comments. I'm having a rough time deciding what to do about this relationship right now. There has been no physical intimacy for whatever reason (We had a week together in May...great time, no sex.) My husband and I talk very day. He has some very exciting job opportunities that have arisen, and I'm truly happy for him, but, once again, it puts our time together into a very few days over the summer. When I ask where WE fit into this, he acts like I'm being difficult. He wants to "take it slow", but continually tells me he loves me. Yet, I will have a total of 5 days with him in July and a few days at my sister in law's wedding in August where I'll see him. Not enough time as far as I'm concerned. This job may eventually allow him to move to my city, and I should be happy, but it also puts US on hold...again. I've told him that, although "going slow" is a good idea (What he wants), in my mind, that means being together with time and physical contact over a period of time to see if we can reignite our relationship. It doesn't mean seeing each other a few days over the course of a month or two. I love this man and we talk every day. However, I miss him when we do that, and find myself wanting more. It just makes not seeing him and moving forward without him more painful. I'm ready to tell him that we're off for now, in every way. I don't want the daily talks. When he's ready, and the work slows down, I'll be there....unless I've found another relationship. If he really wants me, he can come and get me. That sounds so great until I think about losing him, and then I ache. What's healthy for me right now? I can spend 5 or 6 days with him in a few weeks....we'll also have a few counseling sessions then that, I guess, are to help us on the phone for the remaining weeks (Yes, I'm being a bit sarcastic.). That's really all we have for the coming months. What's your take on this at this point. The job is legit and he's excited. I want to be happy for him, but there's not much in it for me, I'm afraid. Thanks, it helps so much to express this and talk it over. Love this website!
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I've really appreciated your comments. I'm having a rough time deciding what to do about this relationship right now. There has been no physical intimacy for whatever reason (We had a week together in May...great time, no sex.) My husband and I talk very day. He has some very exciting job opportunities that have arisen, and I'm truly happy for him, but, once again, it puts our time together into a very few days over the summer. When I ask where WE fit into this, he acts like I'm being difficult. He wants to "take it slow", but continually tells me he loves me. Yet, I will have a total of 5 days with him in July and a few days at my sister in law's wedding in August where I'll see him. Not enough time as far as I'm concerned. This job may eventually allow him to move to my city, and I should be happy, but it also puts US on hold...again. I've told him that, although "going slow" is a good idea (What he wants), in my mind, that means being together with time and physical contact over a period of time to see if we can reignite our relationship. It doesn't mean seeing each other a few days over the course of a month or two. I love this man and we talk every day. However, I miss him when we do that, and find myself wanting more. It just makes not seeing him and moving forward without him more painful. I'm ready to tell him that we're off for now, in every way. I don't want the daily talks. When he's ready, and the work slows down, I'll be there....unless I've found another relationship. If he really wants me, he can come and get me. That sounds so great until I think about losing him, and then I ache. What's healthy for me right now? I can spend 5 or 6 days with him in a few weeks....we'll also have a few counseling sessions then that, I guess, are to help us on the phone for the remaining weeks (Yes, I'm being a bit sarcastic.). That's really all we have for the coming months. What's your take on this at this point. The job is legit and he's excited. I want to be happy for him, but there's not much in it for me, I'm afraid. Thanks, it helps so much to express this and talk it over. Love this website!
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