If relationships are not tough already, this is really putting a damper on the situation. I wanted to share my take on this since I may fall into your man’s role on this one, career minded.
I am also a major go-getter! From this point of view, I would hope that someone would be supportive and by my side as I conquer the world (per-say). I recently had a conversation with an ex-boyfriend that I spent 8 years with and I asked him what was his worst complaint about me (as his girlfriend). He said TIME. He always felt less than my school, the military and my job. Is it selfish, on the part of the go-getter? Maybe, but I guess the justification I felt and maybe your boyfriend is that we are trying to get comfortable in this world to be able to work hard, play harder with a person who understands. Yes, that is a ton to ask of someone and I am sure he understands as I do. Another justification is we are only trying to get better and not doing things bad such as drugs or something.
No one can tell you what to do here. Only you can make the decision to either find something to do yourself to keep yourself busy or maybe let it go as it may take a long time for him to get acclimated. What do you really want?
I do not expect anyone to understand my chaotic career minded craziness and I chose to be single because I don’t want anyone to feel how you are feeling. I happen to understand since I have done this once and was actually upset when I was asked for my personal time. WHAT? Time? What is that!
Hun, I feel for you in many ways. You really have to find within you what you really want. Do you want children? This would be a serious issue with a career aggressive person. Career becomes your family.
Can you please keep us updated? I wish you the best.
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Hi Anonymous,
If relationships are not tough already, this is really putting a damper on the situation. I wanted to share my take on this since I may fall into your man’s role on this one, career minded.
I am also a major go-getter! From this point of view, I would hope that someone would be supportive and by my side as I conquer the world (per-say). I recently had a conversation with an ex-boyfriend that I spent 8 years with and I asked him what was his worst complaint about me (as his girlfriend). He said TIME. He always felt less than my school, the military and my job. Is it selfish, on the part of the go-getter? Maybe, but I guess the justification I felt and maybe your boyfriend is that we are trying to get comfortable in this world to be able to work hard, play harder with a person who understands. Yes, that is a ton to ask of someone and I am sure he understands as I do. Another justification is we are only trying to get better and not doing things bad such as drugs or something.
No one can tell you what to do here. Only you can make the decision to either find something to do yourself to keep yourself busy or maybe let it go as it may take a long time for him to get acclimated. What do you really want?
I do not expect anyone to understand my chaotic career minded craziness and I chose to be single because I don’t want anyone to feel how you are feeling. I happen to understand since I have done this once and was actually upset when I was asked for my personal time. WHAT? Time? What is that!
Hun, I feel for you in many ways. You really have to find within you what you really want. Do you want children? This would be a serious issue with a career aggressive person. Career becomes your family.
Can you please keep us updated? I wish you the best.
June 19, 2010 - 5:44amThis Comment
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