So let me get this straight. You go through 40 weeks of pregnancy carrying his child, get through labor and delivery, and are now a mom, and he wants nothing to do with you because you've gained weight and you're not eating properly in his eyes? And after he criticizes you and won't touch you, he also is turned off because you're not confident anymore?
This makes me cringe. Your boyfriend needs to get some perspective, or you need to move on. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but a loving partner is supportive, not critical. You are supposed to be a family now, and that means two people who work together to raise their child, build a home and build their relationship. It doesn't seem like that's happening. I know you love him -- he is the father of your child, and you have been with him for a year and a half. But you need to ask yourself if he -- and the way he treats you -- is what you want to lie with for the rest of your life.
Our bodies change as we get older, have children, etc. If YOU want to lose this weight for YOU, that's great. But if you lose it just because he says it turns him off, you will be forever thinking that it is your fault if he's not sexually attracted to you. And it's not.
I hope that helps a little bit. What are you thinking now?
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Hi, PrettyfaceJC,
So let me get this straight. You go through 40 weeks of pregnancy carrying his child, get through labor and delivery, and are now a mom, and he wants nothing to do with you because you've gained weight and you're not eating properly in his eyes? And after he criticizes you and won't touch you, he also is turned off because you're not confident anymore?
This makes me cringe. Your boyfriend needs to get some perspective, or you need to move on. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but a loving partner is supportive, not critical. You are supposed to be a family now, and that means two people who work together to raise their child, build a home and build their relationship. It doesn't seem like that's happening. I know you love him -- he is the father of your child, and you have been with him for a year and a half. But you need to ask yourself if he -- and the way he treats you -- is what you want to lie with for the rest of your life.
Our bodies change as we get older, have children, etc. If YOU want to lose this weight for YOU, that's great. But if you lose it just because he says it turns him off, you will be forever thinking that it is your fault if he's not sexually attracted to you. And it's not.
I hope that helps a little bit. What are you thinking now?
June 2, 2010 - 8:33amThis Comment
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