How can he LOVE me if he isnt sexually attracted to me anymore?

im 47 and my partner of 8 yrs is 43, my partner does have a thyroid problem so i know it might affect him having sex but he has told me that my weight does not help and his not attracted to me though he still loves me, im 15 stones, he says he hates the smell of sex and finds it disgusting but somtimes he has masterbated to porn, when i ask him why when he can have sex with me he says he doesnt come properly and he doesnt get the smell of sex, i do love him but find myself resenting him for being so selfish and not really caring how i feel, or am i being selfish when i know his got a medical problem, is sex so important or being with someone who says they love you a lot, its just so frustrating, i even have to ask for a cuddle and if i do try and touch him he says im weird and theres something wrong with me, sometimes i wish i was single and on my own so i didnt have all this crap and maybe i would be happier.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year and due to a disease I have I have been putting on weight. I have tried everything I can to have prevented this but it occurred anyway. He told me last night the he is no longer attracted to me sexually but he still loves me. Personally I can’t understand how you can love someone and not be sexually attracted to them. I’m absolutely crushed and I have no self confidence left. I’ve offered for him to go sleep with other people since I don’t satisfy him enough in order to save our relationship, but it’s killing me inside. I don’t know what I can do anymore to fix this. I feel like it’s my fault because of the disease.

Lord help us! Sounds like we need a male whorehouse! Seriously, there was one in Bangkok for women whose husbands decided after the wife was 40 it was time to get a new minor wife. I have been with this fellow for over 20 years now. First 2-3 were OK, but now he just giggles or slaps my hands away. I have been used to great, frequent, and mutual fun sexual encounters and this is blowing me away. I have moved to another room rather than get POd at him for rejecting my advances. What are we to do with these guys? (PS: Not just me, no wet dreams or masturbation on his part either!! In my opinion, sicko!)

Wow! I really had no idea how many women, myself included, are going through the same thing!

Wow, there's so many of us out there. I never realized that there's so many other woman, suffering like I am. I'm almost 45, and my husband is 41, almost 42. We've been married 2 years. The first year was fine. We didn't have sex as many times as I would've liked, but I'm very aware of the fact that I have a much higher sex drive than anyone else, both males and females. So last summer though, he had an emotional affair. The woman was in a different state and married, so I know that it wasn't physical, but by just him and her talking behind my back, he started sleeping on the couch, took off his wedding ring, told me that he didn't love me anymore, and that he didn't think he wanted to be married anymore. I was devastated and shocked to say the least. At first I didn't know about "her", but then a friend sent me a screenshot of her on his FB page (he had taken me off of it at this point) saying, "Happy birthday babe. I wish I could be there with you to celebrate. I love you.". I was FLOORED, but at the same time everything about what he had been saying and doing suddenly made sense. So during that time, he treated me like shit, but I kept trying to make our marriage work. I spent 5 MONTHS competing with that woman, and begging my husband to love me again. Keep in mind that this was only an emotional affair as they were too far apart and she was married too. If he had psychically cheated, I would've just divorced him. Anyway, during that 5 months, he told me that he is unattracted to me, and that I am fat, ugly, repulsive, etc...Hearing him say those things, cut me to the core. After 5 months, he stopped talking to her, told me he loves me, and that he got his head out of his a** finally. So he's been on a mission to make up to me for how bad he hurt me for the last 6 months. However, we're not having sex. He tells me that he loves me all the time, but I still hurt from him telling me he's unattracted to me. I'm trying to forgive him and move past it all, but how can he love me if he isn't attracted to me??? He tries to tell me that he is, but his never wanting sex with me, proves to me that he really did mean all the nasty things he said. Am I wrong? He says he just said those things out of anger, and that he didn't mean any of it, but if that were true, why doesn't he want to have sex with me?? I am very confused and my heart is shattered. I want our marriage to work out bcuz I love him so much, but how can I get over what he did and the awful things he said? I feel so insecure and like every night we go to bed, and don't have sex, that he's rejecting me all over again. Anyone have any advice for me????

Wow okay, so I thought alone with this problem.

Been with my hubby for 3yrs, 1 yr married 2 years dating. Yip have the same problem. These were the excuses, the kids, no time, tired, overworked, stressed, sick, and now....ta da Honey I have a low sex drive.... lower than yours....

I sulk he touches me, couple of months I sulk he touches me, couple of months I sulk he touches me. But I do love him more than I have loved anyone, so I guess I will stay in this sad situation.