I'm so sorry. What a confusing, difficult, heart-wrenching time you have been through recently. It clearly has affected all of you in very deep ways, and that is hard to work through, even when you are taking responsibility for it (and good for you for doing that.)
You have been married for 35 years, and I know that in that time there were other hard times that the two of you had to share. How did you get through those other times? And in your opinion, what has made this time so different?
Are you on medication now and in therapy? How are YOU doing since your diagnosis and these events?
Have you talked with your husband about his feelings, and his lack of ability or interest to support you now or be intimate (or even affectionate)? What does he say?
Have you two considered counseling together? You have both been through a major event in your lives, which changed a lot of very important things -- your relationship with each other, his relationship with his family, perhaps his ability to have confidence in you and perhaps your ability to have confidence in yourself. I am thinking that talking it through with a professional therapist who understands bipolar illnesses might be your best hope. Would he do this with you? Are you interested in it?
He might be interested in this site. It is called Bipolar Significant Others, and it is specifically targeted to those whose loved ones are bipolar:
http://www.bpso.org/
Do you think your husband wants to stay in the marriage?
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Nenato8,
I'm so sorry. What a confusing, difficult, heart-wrenching time you have been through recently. It clearly has affected all of you in very deep ways, and that is hard to work through, even when you are taking responsibility for it (and good for you for doing that.)
You have been married for 35 years, and I know that in that time there were other hard times that the two of you had to share. How did you get through those other times? And in your opinion, what has made this time so different?
Are you on medication now and in therapy? How are YOU doing since your diagnosis and these events?
Have you talked with your husband about his feelings, and his lack of ability or interest to support you now or be intimate (or even affectionate)? What does he say?
Have you two considered counseling together? You have both been through a major event in your lives, which changed a lot of very important things -- your relationship with each other, his relationship with his family, perhaps his ability to have confidence in you and perhaps your ability to have confidence in yourself. I am thinking that talking it through with a professional therapist who understands bipolar illnesses might be your best hope. Would he do this with you? Are you interested in it?
He might be interested in this site. It is called Bipolar Significant Others, and it is specifically targeted to those whose loved ones are bipolar:
http://www.bpso.org/
Do you think your husband wants to stay in the marriage?
June 4, 2010 - 9:46amThis Comment
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