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My husband doesn't like the way the way I look either - never has even before we got married I have learned. I was a stick then and still am not overweight after a few children. Through counseling, we have learned that he doesn't feel good about himself so he's looking for life through me - and wants me to look a certain way. And, his own feelings of insecurity are projected onto me. But, this isn't going to work for me. We will continue in counseling, but it's a very painful process for me. I continue to let him know how painful it is and what it makes me feel like. There is no sex until I know he finds me attractive - and he won't do that until he's happy with himself. I'm also not willing to stay in this situation forever...