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Pregnancy worries WITHOUT intercourse?

By Anonymous June 7, 2010 - 6:34pm
 
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I can't believe I'm asking this but I'm starting to freak out a little bit.
A few days after my period ended, my boyfriend and I were "messing around." He put his bare penis up to my bare vagina and started rubbing before I told him to stop and put on a condom. (I'm not on any other form of birth control right now.) No ejaculation and no penetration, just possible precm on my vagina.
I didn't think anything of it at the time, but now my period is a few days late - I've had some weird light brown spotting with period-esque cramps, but no period. My breasts are tender and look a little bigger to me, and my skin has absolutely exploded with acne (although that is not unusual for me). I'm kind of freaking out.

I am absolutely exhausted, but to be fair, I have been sleeping an average of four hours a night and have a whole lot of stress in my life right now. We haven't even had sex yet because I am undergoing treatment for vaginsmus - penetration and intercourse is too painful for me, something I'm working on with physical therapy.

I took a sensitive early test the day my period should have come, and it was negative, but still no period. A pregnancy would be absolutely devastating, especially without intercourse - I'm not even sure my boyfriend would believe me. :(

I should mention that I recently stopped taking the Pill because it was making me super depressed and physically ill. I was told to expect some cycle weirdness after stopping, but I'd gone through two full cycles and my period seemed perfectly normal.
Am I making myself nuts or is there a real risk here?

Thanks very much for your help.

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Anonymous

Hi so I’ve missed two periods, had symptoms when first one was supposed to happen in September then no bleeding, symptoms went away. Had symptoms but no bleeding second time in October then symptoms went away.

My bf and I haven’t really touched each other in couple months (since mid August). And when we did then I was on birth control (May have missed a day here and there but don’t remember circumstances back in August if I did or not). There was also no penetration in and no ejacuation but possibility precum was near my area cuz shaft of his penis was rubbed on my vagina (grinding) and their is slighttttt possibility he might have had precum on fingers, wiped it off then used his fingers (probably pinky) to massage clit while he ate me out; but also not alot like to drop into me and not inserted directly inside me.

He also had ejaculated earlier in day or day before but peed multiple times before we touched.

Kind of nervous. I will obviously take a test but based on those circumstances what is likelihood of pregnant? I feel like a lot would have to be perfectly timed for that to happen.

October 14, 2019 - 11:48am
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anon

From what you have said, your risk sounds low but that's about all we can say. Since you are two months late, it's definitely time to take a test. If it's negative, talk to your gynecologist about why this may be - you may have a hormonal imbalance.
Best,
Susan

October 14, 2019 - 2:10pm
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Anonymous

If there was no penetration but genital contact from my boyfriend and I, with pre cum only, is it possible to be pregnant? I’m 4 days late and I’ve been really stressed about this and I’ve been getting only about 4-5 hours of sleep and sometimes less. Is my period just late because of my intense stress?

January 5, 2019 - 7:15pm
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Anon,

Please post once only and in one place. Your ASK this morning was deleted as it was already addressed here. From what you say, there was no intercourse/ejaculation Only you know what occurred. A test will easily confirm for you.

Helena

January 6, 2019 - 6:13am
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello, Anon.

Pre-ejaculate fluid in itself does not contain sperm. Sperm can be picked up the urethra if a man has not urinated since ejaculation. But once he urinates, any sperm would be flushed out. Stress can certainly impact your period. If you still have doubts, a pregnancy test can easily be taken to ease your mind.

Helena

January 5, 2019 - 8:11pm
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Anonymous

A week ago, me and my boyfriend were messing around, it happened during my fertile days, there was no penetration, our areas just rubbed against each others. We also had our underwear on and from what I remember he didnt eyaculate on top of me but I was wet could I be pregnant after this? My period is supposed to come this next week but im anxious

October 20, 2018 - 3:26pm
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello, Anon.

It's normal to feel wet from arousal in a situation like this. For all intents and purposes, there is a risk of pregnancy when a woman has unprotected sexual intercourse with ejaculation that enters the vagina.

You cannot get pregnant rubbing with underwear/clothes on. Sperm can wet cloth but it cannot penetrate it to impregnate.

Helena

October 20, 2018 - 4:15pm

Hi
I ve been messing around with my bf, he fingered me and i gave him oral and a handjob, as far as I remember I did not touch myself but he fingered me himswlf and he didnt touch his private area before doing so, we also did grinding while he was wearing his boxers and i was naked, he ejaculated on me but it came to my arm and hairs, we washed it off immediately, we did this 2-3 times last month but the other 2 times he didnt even ejaculate near me and it didn’t touch me at all. whats the chance of being pregnant? I m 1 week late on my period

August 26, 2018 - 9:51pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Sunny12345)

Hello Sunny

Your period is late for other reasons - maybe stress or a change in body chemistry. A woman cannot get pregnant unless she has unprotected sex (naked) with ejaculation. She would also have to be ovulating. Sperm will not travel through a layer of clothing to impregnate.

So a pregnancy cannot occur from what you did.

Best,
Susan

August 27, 2018 - 11:05am
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Anonymous

Hi me and my boyfriend were messing around in the shower and he had came and washed his hands with just water. He said that none of the cum got on his hands but he washed them in the shower anyways with no soap. Then started fingering me. Is there any way I could be pregnant?

July 19, 2018 - 6:15am
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