Anon,
I hope we can be of some help here. First of all, your boyfriend certainly isn't alone. Did you know that the Mayo Clinic says that as many as one out of three men experience premature ejaculation at some time?
It's absolutely wonderful that the two of you are able to talk about everything, including this. That's an awesome sign, and it will help you work through it. He is lucky to have an understanding partner.
Here is some more from the Mayo site:
"Both psychological and biological factors can play a role in premature ejaculation. Although many men feel embarrassed to talk about it, premature ejaculation is a common and treatable condition.
"Medications, psychological counseling and sexual techniques that delay ejaculation can improve sex for you and your partner. For many men, a combination of treatments works best."
You can go here; there are links down the side that lead to other pages about causes, treatments and so on:
Having a condition like this for a while certainly doesn't make a person dysfunctional!! Any more than not having 20/20 vision makes you dysfunctional, for instance. It's just a symptom that there's something going on, it's common, and it can go away. But the embarrassment and anxiety is probably serving only to make it worse in the meantime.
Does this help? Might your boyfriend go see a doctor to talk about this?
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Anon,
I hope we can be of some help here. First of all, your boyfriend certainly isn't alone. Did you know that the Mayo Clinic says that as many as one out of three men experience premature ejaculation at some time?
It's absolutely wonderful that the two of you are able to talk about everything, including this. That's an awesome sign, and it will help you work through it. He is lucky to have an understanding partner.
Here is some more from the Mayo site:
"Both psychological and biological factors can play a role in premature ejaculation. Although many men feel embarrassed to talk about it, premature ejaculation is a common and treatable condition.
"Medications, psychological counseling and sexual techniques that delay ejaculation can improve sex for you and your partner. For many men, a combination of treatments works best."
You can go here; there are links down the side that lead to other pages about causes, treatments and so on:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/premature-ejaculation/DS00578
Here's an informative page from about.com:
http://menshealth.about.com/cs/stds/a/premature_ejac.htm
And I think this page may help your boyfriend see this more in context, that it happens to so many men:
http://men.webmd.com/tc/premature-ejaculation-topic-overview
Having a condition like this for a while certainly doesn't make a person dysfunctional!! Any more than not having 20/20 vision makes you dysfunctional, for instance. It's just a symptom that there's something going on, it's common, and it can go away. But the embarrassment and anxiety is probably serving only to make it worse in the meantime.
Does this help? Might your boyfriend go see a doctor to talk about this?
June 10, 2010 - 8:35amThis Comment
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