Miss Metal,
It is great that you have been able to communicate with your boyfriend about this, and I urge you to go one step further in your communication. However, you will need to have some conversations with yourself first, to know what you are truly needing from a relationship.
If he says sex is not important in his relationship with you, then the next step is to let him know that sex is important to you in a romantic relationship. Part of a healthy relationship is caring about the other's concerns, and what type of relationship you two, together, are willing to create. What do you want out of a long-term, romantic relationship? What are you willing to settle for?
If he does not want sex with you, and you think sex in a romantic relationship is important (as most people do), then it may be time to go your separate ways. He has changed the game in your relationship; you can not change or control him, but you can make an informed decision and choose your actions based on what you think is important in a healthy, stable, long-term romantic relationship and what he is willing to provide to meet those needs.
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Miss Metal,
It is great that you have been able to communicate with your boyfriend about this, and I urge you to go one step further in your communication. However, you will need to have some conversations with yourself first, to know what you are truly needing from a relationship.
If he says sex is not important in his relationship with you, then the next step is to let him know that sex is important to you in a romantic relationship. Part of a healthy relationship is caring about the other's concerns, and what type of relationship you two, together, are willing to create. What do you want out of a long-term, romantic relationship? What are you willing to settle for?
If he does not want sex with you, and you think sex in a romantic relationship is important (as most people do), then it may be time to go your separate ways. He has changed the game in your relationship; you can not change or control him, but you can make an informed decision and choose your actions based on what you think is important in a healthy, stable, long-term romantic relationship and what he is willing to provide to meet those needs.
June 8, 2010 - 7:57pmThis Comment
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