The two of you have been through a lot, and quite a bit of it has been difficult. That changes people. You've been together for more than 3 years, which is good, but it's common to lose some sexual interest over time. You two and your situation have changed since you met, and that is affecting both of you.
It's good that your boyfriend can be honest with you that the extra weight is what turns him off. You mention that you have gained 24 pounds since you first were together. I know that's hard. And losing weight isn't easy.
I'm not sure there's something he can do to just "get over" the fact that this is a problem for him. But since you are not happy with your weight, I think that's more important anyway. What sort of eating plan are you on? Are you able to exercise?
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Wantstobeloved,
The two of you have been through a lot, and quite a bit of it has been difficult. That changes people. You've been together for more than 3 years, which is good, but it's common to lose some sexual interest over time. You two and your situation have changed since you met, and that is affecting both of you.
It's good that your boyfriend can be honest with you that the extra weight is what turns him off. You mention that you have gained 24 pounds since you first were together. I know that's hard. And losing weight isn't easy.
I'm not sure there's something he can do to just "get over" the fact that this is a problem for him. But since you are not happy with your weight, I think that's more important anyway. What sort of eating plan are you on? Are you able to exercise?
June 21, 2010 - 9:00amThis Comment
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