You are going to find that people have very strong opinions about this. Many will say you are too young. I personally was married and had my son when I was 22, and I felt it was a good age for me because I still was young and had lots of energy to chase after a child. I was also very healthy and that is terribly important.
I suggest you look at your own situation carefully. Are you and your boyfriend going to be together indefinitely? Do you have a means to support a child? It is expensive. Are you ready to basically turn your life over to a child? Especially when they are small, your life will pretty much revolve around the baby 24/7. Have you spent time around children? Do you live in a safe place? Do you have family or friends to support you emotionally? You will need that more often than you realize.
Most of us kind of jump into having children, and then make it work. That's fine if it works. But it will definitely turn your life on its head, so you must be ready for that. I think if you are really ready and have the financial and emotional means, you are not too young. Just remember this is a life long commitment. My son is 23 and back living at home again for a while thanks to the economy. Once you are a mom, you are a mom forever, good or bad.
I'm guessing we will see a lot of feedback on your question. Thanks for writing. Good luck to you.
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Hi Anonymous
You are going to find that people have very strong opinions about this. Many will say you are too young. I personally was married and had my son when I was 22, and I felt it was a good age for me because I still was young and had lots of energy to chase after a child. I was also very healthy and that is terribly important.
I suggest you look at your own situation carefully. Are you and your boyfriend going to be together indefinitely? Do you have a means to support a child? It is expensive. Are you ready to basically turn your life over to a child? Especially when they are small, your life will pretty much revolve around the baby 24/7. Have you spent time around children? Do you live in a safe place? Do you have family or friends to support you emotionally? You will need that more often than you realize.
Most of us kind of jump into having children, and then make it work. That's fine if it works. But it will definitely turn your life on its head, so you must be ready for that. I think if you are really ready and have the financial and emotional means, you are not too young. Just remember this is a life long commitment. My son is 23 and back living at home again for a while thanks to the economy. Once you are a mom, you are a mom forever, good or bad.
I'm guessing we will see a lot of feedback on your question. Thanks for writing. Good luck to you.
July 5, 2010 - 6:49amThis Comment
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