I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Let me ask you this: Why do you want to fix the relationship? You do not sound happy. He does not sound happy, either. What is there that makes it worthwhile for you?
One thing I know is one person cannot fix a relationship. It takes two people to make it work. So you can't fix it if he doesn't also want it to be better and work on it. You cannot do it for him. I agree with Crowsister that counseling may be of help; couples counseling if he is interested, but more importantly, counseling for you so you can learn why you allow others to treat you poorly.
When he says "you know where the door is" that is a pretty strong statement about his feelings on the relationship. It sounds like he is done with it. I think your question already has all of your answers in it, and if you go back and read what you wrote, you will see that.
Thank you for writing. I'm sure you will get more responses to this, as we have several very long, popular threads on this topic: https://www.empowher.com/relationships-family/community.
Good luck, Katie. You deserve to be happy. Stand up for yourself and you can make a better life for yourself.
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Hi Katie-
I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Let me ask you this: Why do you want to fix the relationship? You do not sound happy. He does not sound happy, either. What is there that makes it worthwhile for you?
One thing I know is one person cannot fix a relationship. It takes two people to make it work. So you can't fix it if he doesn't also want it to be better and work on it. You cannot do it for him. I agree with Crowsister that counseling may be of help; couples counseling if he is interested, but more importantly, counseling for you so you can learn why you allow others to treat you poorly.
When he says "you know where the door is" that is a pretty strong statement about his feelings on the relationship. It sounds like he is done with it. I think your question already has all of your answers in it, and if you go back and read what you wrote, you will see that.
Thank you for writing. I'm sure you will get more responses to this, as we have several very long, popular threads on this topic: https://www.empowher.com/relationships-family/community.
Good luck, Katie. You deserve to be happy. Stand up for yourself and you can make a better life for yourself.
July 5, 2010 - 6:36amThis Comment
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