Hi Alison,
Thanks for your advice. Actually I don't even know if it's really over (denial I guess) but I suppose his silence speaks louder than words. I must add that he helped me a lot getting over a very nasty divorce when we started dating and was very sweet, it felt good to be respected and admired and the sex with him was the best I ever had (funny thing is that in the beginning I was afraid he only wanted me for sex, and in the end we didn't even have sex any more). However in all that time the most that he ever told me was that "he liked me very much" and that I was "as close to a girlfriend as possible". I am trying to develop an attitude of gratefulness, because now I am free to pursue a relationship with someone I might mean more to. I don't want to grow old alone. I know he has many problems and that might have been the cause of this relationship dying and I feel guilty that I was only thinking about my own needs, but hell, I have needs too. Lastly I would like to come back to the subject of the many gifts he gave me. I know he never expected anything in return, but it was all worth app. $2k and he might lose his job and I think I should give him the money back so I don't have to feel guilty any longer. I am struggling to get back on my feet but it won't exactly kill me either.
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Hi Alison,
December 26, 2010 - 10:16amThanks for your advice. Actually I don't even know if it's really over (denial I guess) but I suppose his silence speaks louder than words. I must add that he helped me a lot getting over a very nasty divorce when we started dating and was very sweet, it felt good to be respected and admired and the sex with him was the best I ever had (funny thing is that in the beginning I was afraid he only wanted me for sex, and in the end we didn't even have sex any more). However in all that time the most that he ever told me was that "he liked me very much" and that I was "as close to a girlfriend as possible". I am trying to develop an attitude of gratefulness, because now I am free to pursue a relationship with someone I might mean more to. I don't want to grow old alone. I know he has many problems and that might have been the cause of this relationship dying and I feel guilty that I was only thinking about my own needs, but hell, I have needs too. Lastly I would like to come back to the subject of the many gifts he gave me. I know he never expected anything in return, but it was all worth app. $2k and he might lose his job and I think I should give him the money back so I don't have to feel guilty any longer. I am struggling to get back on my feet but it won't exactly kill me either.
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