My 15 year old daughter is dating a 17 year old boy who I suspect has Aspergers. I haven't yet met his parents--they've only been going out a little over a month--so there is no way to know for sure. He is very nice and polite but doesn't make eye contact at all, is extremely awkward socially, says random and sometimes inappropriate things, has odd gestures and posture and a strange walk, and I have heard him talking to himself on more than one occasion. He apparently makes straight A's in school but doesn't come across as all that intelligent. He is obsessed with playing a certain sport and was homeschooled for 3 years so he could focus on it. My daughter says even his texting is not that of a normal teen. When they are alone together they have fun and he is such a gentleman and loves to take my daughter out for dinner, movies, mini-golf, etc., and he is handsome and sweet. He does hug her and hold her hand but not constantly like the other boys she has dated. They were at a party over the weekend and she discovered he cannot dance--at all. He couldn't even attempt it. Not even slow dance by just swaying back and forth. He went home and got a dance lesson from his sister which was so sweet of him. My daughter is on the verge of breaking up with him--I think the comments of her friends and even some family members when they are in social situations are really getting to her and she doesn't know how to handle his oddness. I feel terrible for him because he really is such a nice boy and if he does have Asberger's, it is not something he can help, and I don't want him to be hurt. But at the same time my daughter is only 15 and maybe this relationship is just too stressful for her. Any comments?
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My 15 year old daughter is dating a 17 year old boy who I suspect has Aspergers. I haven't yet met his parents--they've only been going out a little over a month--so there is no way to know for sure. He is very nice and polite but doesn't make eye contact at all, is extremely awkward socially, says random and sometimes inappropriate things, has odd gestures and posture and a strange walk, and I have heard him talking to himself on more than one occasion. He apparently makes straight A's in school but doesn't come across as all that intelligent. He is obsessed with playing a certain sport and was homeschooled for 3 years so he could focus on it. My daughter says even his texting is not that of a normal teen. When they are alone together they have fun and he is such a gentleman and loves to take my daughter out for dinner, movies, mini-golf, etc., and he is handsome and sweet. He does hug her and hold her hand but not constantly like the other boys she has dated. They were at a party over the weekend and she discovered he cannot dance--at all. He couldn't even attempt it. Not even slow dance by just swaying back and forth. He went home and got a dance lesson from his sister which was so sweet of him. My daughter is on the verge of breaking up with him--I think the comments of her friends and even some family members when they are in social situations are really getting to her and she doesn't know how to handle his oddness. I feel terrible for him because he really is such a nice boy and if he does have Asberger's, it is not something he can help, and I don't want him to be hurt. But at the same time my daughter is only 15 and maybe this relationship is just too stressful for her. Any comments?
September 3, 2012 - 8:05amThis Comment
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