Hi,
I met this guy about two weeks ago. We met on a dating site. When I saw his pictures he was really attractive and nothing that he wrote about himself really made any sense in his profile except the last two lines where he says that he likes [my same hobbies] and that he went to school for [the same major that I am going to].
Other things that were in his profile is that he is looking for a long-term relationship. He is 29 and I am 21.
He invited me to eat with his family (brother, brother's wife, and their baby) the same day. I thought that was really sweet but I had to study for my exams that day so I couldn't make it. He kept messaging me and inviting me to go out.
The past weekend was our first date, he came to pick me up. He has a really sweet face but he was doing some weird gestures. I was scared a little bit but I assumed that he was just nervous.
When we were having dinner he kept doing the weird gestures and then I started to suspect that he had some kind of mental problem.
While having dinner I was talking for the most part. Then he told me that he went to school for three semesters and then he stopped going and that he has no interest on going back because he has a job now. I asked him about his past relationship and he told me that he was dating a girl four years ago but that they broke up because she didn't want anything serious. I asked him if he does drugs, and he told me the name of a drug that I've never heard before. I didn't know what it was so he told me that he needs to take it because he has ADHD and autism.
We went on a second date four days ago. He seems like a really sweet guy but I can't deny that I am a bit frightened by his weird gestures. He makes eye contact with me for what I've noticed and he talks just as much as anybody else that I know.
He came to see me yesterday at my apartment and he brought [a recipe] that he learned from his grandma. He also tried helping me study and I appreciate how much he tried, watching videos and learning the material for my 300 level college course. I gave him a tight hug before he left.
Tomorrow I am going to eat with a group of friends (6 friends) and I invited him to come with us and he accepted my invitation. He also invited me to see the Christmas lights in a park close to where he lives in the afternoon.
As you can see, we are just starting getting to know each other.
First, what suggestions do you have for tomorrow that we are going out as a group? Second, what suggestions do you have now that we are just stating getting to know each other?
Third, I am a bit concerned about some things; I don't know if this is going to work. As of right now, everything looks good. But to be honest, I want to know how should I handle "breaking up with him" because I don't want to have someone be calling me every day or be coming to my apartment without notice, if I find out that I cannot take this relationship.
This is the first time that I meet someone with autism and I am just starting to read about it.
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Hi,
I met this guy about two weeks ago. We met on a dating site. When I saw his pictures he was really attractive and nothing that he wrote about himself really made any sense in his profile except the last two lines where he says that he likes [my same hobbies] and that he went to school for [the same major that I am going to].
Other things that were in his profile is that he is looking for a long-term relationship. He is 29 and I am 21.
He invited me to eat with his family (brother, brother's wife, and their baby) the same day. I thought that was really sweet but I had to study for my exams that day so I couldn't make it. He kept messaging me and inviting me to go out.
The past weekend was our first date, he came to pick me up. He has a really sweet face but he was doing some weird gestures. I was scared a little bit but I assumed that he was just nervous.
When we were having dinner he kept doing the weird gestures and then I started to suspect that he had some kind of mental problem.
While having dinner I was talking for the most part. Then he told me that he went to school for three semesters and then he stopped going and that he has no interest on going back because he has a job now. I asked him about his past relationship and he told me that he was dating a girl four years ago but that they broke up because she didn't want anything serious. I asked him if he does drugs, and he told me the name of a drug that I've never heard before. I didn't know what it was so he told me that he needs to take it because he has ADHD and autism.
We went on a second date four days ago. He seems like a really sweet guy but I can't deny that I am a bit frightened by his weird gestures. He makes eye contact with me for what I've noticed and he talks just as much as anybody else that I know.
He came to see me yesterday at my apartment and he brought [a recipe] that he learned from his grandma. He also tried helping me study and I appreciate how much he tried, watching videos and learning the material for my 300 level college course. I gave him a tight hug before he left.
Tomorrow I am going to eat with a group of friends (6 friends) and I invited him to come with us and he accepted my invitation. He also invited me to see the Christmas lights in a park close to where he lives in the afternoon.
As you can see, we are just starting getting to know each other.
First, what suggestions do you have for tomorrow that we are going out as a group? Second, what suggestions do you have now that we are just stating getting to know each other?
Third, I am a bit concerned about some things; I don't know if this is going to work. As of right now, everything looks good. But to be honest, I want to know how should I handle "breaking up with him" because I don't want to have someone be calling me every day or be coming to my apartment without notice, if I find out that I cannot take this relationship.
This is the first time that I meet someone with autism and I am just starting to read about it.
December 19, 2014 - 3:29pmThis Comment
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