I cannot second this strongly enough. If you are hoping that you can have an emotionally stable relationship, long term, you will be beating your head against the wall, as this poster points out, especially the lack of affection and empathy. Long term, trying to live with a person who lacks these things will wear you down, and asking them to produce emotions they dont understand will just make you frustrated and a possible target for them lashing out in frustration because they will never really be " in a relationship". The difficult thing is, at first they are very attractive with their orderly lives and good jobs. If you consider yourself emotionally sensitive, i would remain friends, if you can work this out ( although understanding this is also problematic) I am speaking as someone married to a man with aspergers for 30 years. I dont mean to offend anyone, but I am trying to prevent someone else suffering like i did.
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I cannot second this strongly enough. If you are hoping that you can have an emotionally stable relationship, long term, you will be beating your head against the wall, as this poster points out, especially the lack of affection and empathy. Long term, trying to live with a person who lacks these things will wear you down, and asking them to produce emotions they dont understand will just make you frustrated and a possible target for them lashing out in frustration because they will never really be " in a relationship". The difficult thing is, at first they are very attractive with their orderly lives and good jobs. If you consider yourself emotionally sensitive, i would remain friends, if you can work this out ( although understanding this is also problematic) I am speaking as someone married to a man with aspergers for 30 years. I dont mean to offend anyone, but I am trying to prevent someone else suffering like i did.
January 8, 2015 - 3:51pmThis Comment
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