Hopefully someone can help me. I've been involved with a 30 year old man with aspergers for the last four months. We are somewhere between friendship and coupledom. I sleep at his place almost nightly and see him almost every day. Today something crazy happened and I have no idea what to make of it or what to do. He was supposed to help me film something so I went over to his place. I was a little angry with him for not inviting me out to something the night before. He knew it so was trying to me cute, kissing, wrestling on the bed and said he wouldn't help me if I didn't kiss him. I laughed but said no i was still mad, then (mostly to be a shit) I said fine, I have other friends who can help me. (we were supposed to go buy an ipad before filming) suddenly he gets up and sits in his chair. I said i was going to change and he said he wasn't going to help me anymore. We joke a lot so I changed and waited and he said seriously, I'm not going to help you...maybe you should leave. I laughed and said no, you promised. He gets up changes and I said "seriously, are you really not going to help me?" he said no, and i want you to leave. I looked at him perplexed and said, ok, what's up? is everything ok? He said he didn't owe me an explanation and to get the fuck out of his house. I sat there for a second still confused then he preceded to grab my things and set them outside, then grabbed me and pushed me out. He's my best friend and we're very close so I am in shock. I sent him a text saying that I apologized if i overstepped or offended him in any way as that wasn't my intention b/c I value him so much in my life. He responded later saying never to text him again, and that he was blocking me. I am now blocked on facebook and I'm assuming phone as well. This all just happened within the last 4 hours and I'm devastated and completely confused about what happened. I read that sometimes they can overreact and have intense anger/violent mood swings but we are so close so I never thought I would be the target. Is there anything I can do to salvage what's happened here? How should I proceed? Is it possible if I give him space he'll change his mind? Please any help would be greatly appreciated.
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Hopefully someone can help me. I've been involved with a 30 year old man with aspergers for the last four months. We are somewhere between friendship and coupledom. I sleep at his place almost nightly and see him almost every day. Today something crazy happened and I have no idea what to make of it or what to do. He was supposed to help me film something so I went over to his place. I was a little angry with him for not inviting me out to something the night before. He knew it so was trying to me cute, kissing, wrestling on the bed and said he wouldn't help me if I didn't kiss him. I laughed but said no i was still mad, then (mostly to be a shit) I said fine, I have other friends who can help me. (we were supposed to go buy an ipad before filming) suddenly he gets up and sits in his chair. I said i was going to change and he said he wasn't going to help me anymore. We joke a lot so I changed and waited and he said seriously, I'm not going to help you...maybe you should leave. I laughed and said no, you promised. He gets up changes and I said "seriously, are you really not going to help me?" he said no, and i want you to leave. I looked at him perplexed and said, ok, what's up? is everything ok? He said he didn't owe me an explanation and to get the fuck out of his house. I sat there for a second still confused then he preceded to grab my things and set them outside, then grabbed me and pushed me out. He's my best friend and we're very close so I am in shock. I sent him a text saying that I apologized if i overstepped or offended him in any way as that wasn't my intention b/c I value him so much in my life. He responded later saying never to text him again, and that he was blocking me. I am now blocked on facebook and I'm assuming phone as well. This all just happened within the last 4 hours and I'm devastated and completely confused about what happened. I read that sometimes they can overreact and have intense anger/violent mood swings but we are so close so I never thought I would be the target. Is there anything I can do to salvage what's happened here? How should I proceed? Is it possible if I give him space he'll change his mind? Please any help would be greatly appreciated.
January 16, 2015 - 8:53pmThis Comment
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