Hi,
I have previously made a post here about a guy I met online.
He is 29 and I am 21. We have been seeing each other for about a month. We are not dating yet, we usually hang out in my room (watching videos) and he stays until next day. We have slept together a couple of times but we haven't had sex. Since the first day that we met and he told me that he has autism, I hadn't ask him any questions about that but I've been really wanting to (I just don't want to be rude). He is really attractive and very kind. But I worry about some things: first, the age difference and second, the fact that he has autism. I don't know what to do, I have tried to keep myself emotionally distant from him because I want to get to know him well before thinking about dating. When I look at him (his physical appearance) I would love to have children with him but then, when he exhibits ritualistic repetitive behavior (I feel like I freak out but I don't show it), I doubt about forming a family with him. He looks and acts almost normal except for the weird head movements and other facial expressions that he does once in a while. Also, I worry that I would fall in love and then he would just start showing lack of affection. As of right now, he says that he likes to hold me and kiss me (I told him that he can only kiss my cheek). He says that I am special to him and that he is happy with me. Every time that he comes to see me he massages my arms and feet. He says that he loves spending time with me and that he cares about me. He told me that he likes to have his arm around me and feel my body next to his. I am so confused right now. Should I trust that he really feels emotionally attached to me? I'm afraid that it will go away. And also (a second question) would you give me any suggestions about my reaction to his repetitive behavior (It's a little bit hard for me to get used to it)?
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Hi,
January 25, 2015 - 9:14pmI have previously made a post here about a guy I met online.
He is 29 and I am 21. We have been seeing each other for about a month. We are not dating yet, we usually hang out in my room (watching videos) and he stays until next day. We have slept together a couple of times but we haven't had sex. Since the first day that we met and he told me that he has autism, I hadn't ask him any questions about that but I've been really wanting to (I just don't want to be rude). He is really attractive and very kind. But I worry about some things: first, the age difference and second, the fact that he has autism. I don't know what to do, I have tried to keep myself emotionally distant from him because I want to get to know him well before thinking about dating. When I look at him (his physical appearance) I would love to have children with him but then, when he exhibits ritualistic repetitive behavior (I feel like I freak out but I don't show it), I doubt about forming a family with him. He looks and acts almost normal except for the weird head movements and other facial expressions that he does once in a while. Also, I worry that I would fall in love and then he would just start showing lack of affection. As of right now, he says that he likes to hold me and kiss me (I told him that he can only kiss my cheek). He says that I am special to him and that he is happy with me. Every time that he comes to see me he massages my arms and feet. He says that he loves spending time with me and that he cares about me. He told me that he likes to have his arm around me and feel my body next to his. I am so confused right now. Should I trust that he really feels emotionally attached to me? I'm afraid that it will go away. And also (a second question) would you give me any suggestions about my reaction to his repetitive behavior (It's a little bit hard for me to get used to it)?
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