It's that a Neuro Atypical thinks, processes differently, and they usually always want to do it their way, they are convienced it is the right way. No one wants to really say it, but it is true. My ex will eventually admit " yes, I was only wanting to do it my way". At least he is honest. That is why 95% of people on the Spectrum cannot hold a relationship. Usually in my experience it takes a co-dependent and at times a martyr to have a long term marriage work. My mother is. Even though it is painful and abusive, she still stays. It gets worse as they age also. Most often us NT get frustrated b/c we sense the passive aggressive covert actions and we can't put our finger on it. Their logic doesn't make sense to us. When someone has vested interest in being oppositional, it's nearly impossible to get clear communication. I often say to my ex " I did ask you" and then I do what feels best to me. I cover myself. Actions will often get through easier.
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It's that a Neuro Atypical thinks, processes differently, and they usually always want to do it their way, they are convienced it is the right way. No one wants to really say it, but it is true. My ex will eventually admit " yes, I was only wanting to do it my way". At least he is honest. That is why 95% of people on the Spectrum cannot hold a relationship. Usually in my experience it takes a co-dependent and at times a martyr to have a long term marriage work. My mother is. Even though it is painful and abusive, she still stays. It gets worse as they age also. Most often us NT get frustrated b/c we sense the passive aggressive covert actions and we can't put our finger on it. Their logic doesn't make sense to us. When someone has vested interest in being oppositional, it's nearly impossible to get clear communication. I often say to my ex " I did ask you" and then I do what feels best to me. I cover myself. Actions will often get through easier.
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