I was courted by an man diagnosed with light Aspergers for over 3 years. He would often disappear when under stress, zero contact for up to 4 months, then reappear as if it was okay to re-engage where we left off. One day he came to me and said he was all the way in with the relationship and lets move in together. It lasted 3 months, falling apart because he was unable to connect emotionally or have empathy or compassion for anothers' feelings. Everything was objectified, including sex. Eventually I felt un-valued. He was extremely successful in the computer industry and retired mid 30's. In dating, he wouldn't offer to pay for anything unless I insisted. He waited for me to pay for dinners, groceries, etc. He exhibited paranoia, with excessive insurance, extremely tight spending habits, enough military arms for a nation. His biggest connection was with his mother, calling her every Saturday at the same time, and she did all the shallow talking. He had a fake personality in groups, laughing excessively loud at his own non-funny comments. In private he was extremely quiet and non-engaging. I didn't find out about his diagnosis until I was ready to walk out. I felt it was unfair he didn't disclose his condition and share a conversation about his special needs. I felt I was always being watched over little things, like cleaning dishes, where I left my shoes, how fast I was able to get out of the car. I annoyed him to the point of feeling anxious. I couldn't win. I was always going to fail under his expectations of small tasks.
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I was courted by an man diagnosed with light Aspergers for over 3 years. He would often disappear when under stress, zero contact for up to 4 months, then reappear as if it was okay to re-engage where we left off. One day he came to me and said he was all the way in with the relationship and lets move in together. It lasted 3 months, falling apart because he was unable to connect emotionally or have empathy or compassion for anothers' feelings. Everything was objectified, including sex. Eventually I felt un-valued. He was extremely successful in the computer industry and retired mid 30's. In dating, he wouldn't offer to pay for anything unless I insisted. He waited for me to pay for dinners, groceries, etc. He exhibited paranoia, with excessive insurance, extremely tight spending habits, enough military arms for a nation. His biggest connection was with his mother, calling her every Saturday at the same time, and she did all the shallow talking. He had a fake personality in groups, laughing excessively loud at his own non-funny comments. In private he was extremely quiet and non-engaging. I didn't find out about his diagnosis until I was ready to walk out. I felt it was unfair he didn't disclose his condition and share a conversation about his special needs. I felt I was always being watched over little things, like cleaning dishes, where I left my shoes, how fast I was able to get out of the car. I annoyed him to the point of feeling anxious. I couldn't win. I was always going to fail under his expectations of small tasks.
June 10, 2017 - 4:15pmThis Comment
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