My Boyfriend Wont Have Sex With Me Anymore..?

well im having the same problem as well we've been living together for 5 months and also been dating for that long i moved in with him because i was on my own for a while and we just clicked we love each other alot we used to have sex 3 -4 times for the past 2 months now its been hell all he does is sit on the computer and every time i fell him up he pushes me away and this one time i said i had enough and decided hey im gunna dress sexy and i put on my corset with sexy panties and stockings and i climb on top of him and he says im sorry im not really in the mood and he said can we do it later i was so upset with his responce and i just walked away saying alright :/ he never does anything to me im lucky if i get fingered 1once a month he's always on his computer what should i do i tryed threatening him with the vibrator he says he's sorry he has a lower sex drive ive caught him masturbating alot and i freaked on him because i feel insacure and its unaceptable especially when he's along and im not there he says he just wants to get it over and out of his mind he says he'll come get me when he masturbates he came and got me a couple of times because i lived in the bedroom right beside his but now were living in the same room in our new apartment we still dont have sex and were alone we used to take alot of showers together but now we dont anymore the last time we took a shower together was a month ago :/
so i dont know what to do with him should i leave ? should i buy a vibrator and do mall the work for myself please help :( i feel its ruining our relationship a bit

My bf of 3 yrs has an intense n intamate relationship with Internet porn. After a yr we barely ever had sex. He has no problem jerking offs everyday though. After a year or so of fighting and then talking and then trying he still couldn't bring himself to have sex with me more then he masterbated. Hes affectionate, caring, supportive man and we have an amazing friendship, he just couldn't make me feel whole as a sexual person, for whatever reason (addiction,selfishness,mental) I could feel horrid when we would have sex because I figure he'd rather be jerking off to young teen porn. So I decided sex doesnt belong in our relationship. He of course didn't like the idea, but when he's fine w having sex 1-3 times a month and that simply does nothing for me. I can't get in the mood n I feel vey used or apologetic that he felt he has to sleep with me. So I decided to stop it. He can watch porn all he wants and I don't feel bad because that's what he wants/has to do because I won't give it up. To him an orgasm is an orgasm, it doesn't matter how he has it. It's been 6 months since we had sex n I've never been happier! :) for me the less sex I have the less I want it. So I'm fine with out it. We kiss n cuddle n pet eachother and without the possibility of sex being brought up weve been alot more emotionaly intamate (not sure why). He will occasionally ask me if I'll ever be ready for sex again, and I ask him if he'll ever be ready to give up porn. End of discussion. Haha. I can except his habit but I'll be damned if I have to actively compete with it!! Obviously my situation and solution is most likely pretty uncommon, but shows how every women and man with similar issues can possibly make lemonade out of....the lack of sex. Good luck to you all!

that really sucks! i dont even have an answer to that. I did get to the bottom of my boyfriends reasons and its a medical thing. But maybe your's is just sexually bored. its always better when its a surprise for him. But im no professional. Good luck hun! even though my boyfriends issues are medical, i feel like somethings missing, and that its me. That maybe he just didnt find me attractive anymore. and i too have gone to bed crying. Talk to him i guess. when he offers to get a third party, ask him why its necessary.

I've been having a similar problem... My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years, and we have lived together for just about as long. Im 20 and hes 24. Well up until last month things were going great... i mean we've had out issues but we got through them.. But then things just kinda stopped. No sex, nothing. I mean im not drop dead gorgeous, but im good looking and i know he doesnt have a problem getting hard and that he does want sexual stuff.. he asks for blow jobs and what not all the time. He just doesnt want me. And hes asking me to do threesoms and stuff with him but im not even comfortable with my own relationship to allow another girl in on things. I just dont get it... for example last night was valentines day (V-Day is a big day in my book) and i dressed up all nice for him, and cooked dinner and he got my flowers and a card. He was teasing me and rubbing me all over with his hands and then he asks if he can take care of himself( i.e masturbate) i couldnt stay calm anymore,i broke down in tears and took a bath while i waited for him to be done. I ended up crying myself to sleep on valentines day and i dont know why he didnt want me

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thats crazy almost word for word is whats happening to my boyfriend and I. He's 23 and Im 21 but we live together and have for the past 6 months.
I just figured he's not attracted to me, and maybe it's time to move on which is going to harder since we live together now.
But it may be whats best

Hello I didn't realize how many women are or have experienced the same issue that I am currently experiencing. I've been in a relationship for 2.5 years with my man. After 6 months into the relationship we moved in together. Our sex life was pretty good at the beginning but slowly began to change after I moved in. It's been 4 months since we've had sex. Crazy enough, 4 months ago I found out he cheated on me, but we were intimate a couple of weeks after that, but no more since then. He works nights and I work and attend school full time. We sleep in the same bed, he kisses me before he leaves the house and when he returns. He hugs me often and tells me he loves me but when I initiate sex or even ask for sex he says "I'm tired". I'm 34 and he's 29. Somethings wrong, but I don't know what it is. He pays bills, helps me with my daughter in college and even gives me money when ever I ask and just because. One thing I've noticed is that he watches porn dvd's on a regular basis. He never does it when I'm home but he always forget to take the movie out of the dvd. I feel that he's not attracted to me. I figured on his days off maybe I will try again. Tonight was one of his days off and I tried again, no such luck.

im going through the same thing...what the f*c#!!! why doesnt he want me, im hot, im sexy, i do eveything to turn him on and still nothing.
ive asked him if hes gay??? only because i dont know any other man who doesnt want to have sex.
is he into someone else, i dunno?
were together forever, now that we have a child together, does that scare him?
i need answers and he wont give them to me.....help!!!
im about to go find my needs somewhere else, and i dont want it to come to that:(