Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for your post, and for finding Empowher. I'm not sure what advice you're looking for. Are you wanting someone to tell you it's OK to have a baby with this man? You said you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, so what's the problem? Other people talking? People will find things to talk about, so try and not worry about that--if you weren't a blended family with age differences, they still would talk about the condition of your lawn, how you scold/don't scold your kids, or something else, so it's senseless to let it get to you. If it's the age difference that truly bugs you, there's nothing you can do about that except consider for yourself how important it is to you. Forget your amazing sex life, forget his kids, your kids, and any pending child. Do you love this man? Deep-down-to-your-bones love him? Would you walk across a desert to bring him a cup of water? Then again, I ask you, what's the problem?
Mind you, I'm not a therapist. But if I was in your shoes, I would ask myself, "why am I getting in my own way?" Go live your life! Yeah, it's complicated, even crazy at times, but would you have it any other way? That is the great thing about where we live, and who we are: we have choices, and can adapt to change. Right?
I hope this helps...if I haven't please let me know how I may try to help you better. It sounded to me like you were looking for a pep talk. If I was off the mark, please steer me in the correct direction.
Take care, and good luck.
-Christine
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Hi Anonymous,
September 16, 2010 - 11:25amThank you for your post, and for finding Empowher. I'm not sure what advice you're looking for. Are you wanting someone to tell you it's OK to have a baby with this man? You said you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, so what's the problem? Other people talking? People will find things to talk about, so try and not worry about that--if you weren't a blended family with age differences, they still would talk about the condition of your lawn, how you scold/don't scold your kids, or something else, so it's senseless to let it get to you. If it's the age difference that truly bugs you, there's nothing you can do about that except consider for yourself how important it is to you. Forget your amazing sex life, forget his kids, your kids, and any pending child. Do you love this man? Deep-down-to-your-bones love him? Would you walk across a desert to bring him a cup of water? Then again, I ask you, what's the problem?
Mind you, I'm not a therapist. But if I was in your shoes, I would ask myself, "why am I getting in my own way?" Go live your life! Yeah, it's complicated, even crazy at times, but would you have it any other way? That is the great thing about where we live, and who we are: we have choices, and can adapt to change. Right?
I hope this helps...if I haven't please let me know how I may try to help you better. It sounded to me like you were looking for a pep talk. If I was off the mark, please steer me in the correct direction.
Take care, and good luck.
-Christine
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