Thanks for this article! I had a "vampire" in my life who was sucking a lot of energy from me. I didn't realise how much this person was affecting my life until our relationship came to an end. I felt like a ten tonne weight had been lifted off my shoulders! You know when a relationship has been really bad when you feel RELIEF and not GRIEF when that person has exited from your life.
I have a barometer for how I determine if a relationship is working for me or not -- if I feel great about myself, "bigger", my "best self" around them, then I know they are a positive force in my life. If I feel reduced, "less than", judged or evaluated all the time, then I know that peson is a vampire and is taking something vital from my life.
Being around this person made me feel "less than" and I constantly felt evaluated and coming up "wanting". That's no way to live your life. Get rid of the vampires, and if you suspect you might be one - it's never too late to take a different path, and start ADDING to the lives around you, not taking all the time.
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Thanks for this article! I had a "vampire" in my life who was sucking a lot of energy from me. I didn't realise how much this person was affecting my life until our relationship came to an end. I felt like a ten tonne weight had been lifted off my shoulders! You know when a relationship has been really bad when you feel RELIEF and not GRIEF when that person has exited from your life.
I have a barometer for how I determine if a relationship is working for me or not -- if I feel great about myself, "bigger", my "best self" around them, then I know they are a positive force in my life. If I feel reduced, "less than", judged or evaluated all the time, then I know that peson is a vampire and is taking something vital from my life.
Being around this person made me feel "less than" and I constantly felt evaluated and coming up "wanting". That's no way to live your life. Get rid of the vampires, and if you suspect you might be one - it's never too late to take a different path, and start ADDING to the lives around you, not taking all the time.
September 23, 2010 - 4:25pmThis Comment
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