Hi Delirious,
I agree with Susan. While we are not doctors, or therapists (at least I'm not), it does sound like a normal new parent adjustment thing that may be going on. This may be compounded by the fact that you both are in your early 20s. As you know, being a parent and having that responsibility is super stressful, and tiring. I understand how that "sock" may infuriate you, but try and cut him some slack. Instead focus on trying to be more loving, and giving in the relationship. I'm hoping things will work out if you can get back to being how you were before, but understand that now you guys are parents, it may never be as ideal as it was before. Does anyone have that kind of energy?
The best thing you can do for your baby is to be strong and try to make the relationship work. It will take some doing by both of you--relationships must be nurtured to keep them vibrant. Relationships are hard work, even without a kid thrown in the mix. And as you know, it (generally speaking) falls to the woman to initiate that nurturing. I'm sure you both love your son very much, and no matter what will be there for him.
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing.
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Hi Delirious,
September 22, 2010 - 11:59amI agree with Susan. While we are not doctors, or therapists (at least I'm not), it does sound like a normal new parent adjustment thing that may be going on. This may be compounded by the fact that you both are in your early 20s. As you know, being a parent and having that responsibility is super stressful, and tiring. I understand how that "sock" may infuriate you, but try and cut him some slack. Instead focus on trying to be more loving, and giving in the relationship. I'm hoping things will work out if you can get back to being how you were before, but understand that now you guys are parents, it may never be as ideal as it was before. Does anyone have that kind of energy?
The best thing you can do for your baby is to be strong and try to make the relationship work. It will take some doing by both of you--relationships must be nurtured to keep them vibrant. Relationships are hard work, even without a kid thrown in the mix. And as you know, it (generally speaking) falls to the woman to initiate that nurturing. I'm sure you both love your son very much, and no matter what will be there for him.
Good luck, and let us know how you're doing.
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