Hi delirious,
Congratulations on your 18 month old! I have a 6 month old, and I am definitely right there with you regarding being too tired for intimacy! We both would MUCH rather sleep these days! :-) However, feeling connected is still important, and since we are on the same page, we are able to connect in many other ways other than "just" sex.
A few ideas for you:
1. Lingerie is the first thing that comes to mind when I read that you want to "spice" up your sex life and get out of the routine
2. Since you two are still preferring sleep over intimacy, creating an environment that enables intimacy is probably most important. This includes everything from leading up to the weekend (days before, begin playful touching, nice compliments and acknowledgments of each other, love notes on voicemail or in wallet, telling him you are looking forward to this weekend, etc). I do not know if you have a babysitter, the entire weekend or just an evening, but also not putting too much pressure on yourselves with specific outcomes/goals. Just spending quality time together can be great and relaxing. Doing something the day-of that is physically active, eating healthy and having fun by feeling emotionally and mentally connected are the best ways to have the evening end in physical intimacy that is "spicy".
3. A new location always spices things up. Book a hotel room for the evening (if possible), "camp" outside in your backyard or living room (with baby monitor) for a fun change of scenery.
4. Make sure your husband is on the same page. Talk about what you each would like out of this weekend, so that you two do not have opposite or mixed "goals" in mind that conflict.
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Hi delirious,
Congratulations on your 18 month old! I have a 6 month old, and I am definitely right there with you regarding being too tired for intimacy! We both would MUCH rather sleep these days! :-) However, feeling connected is still important, and since we are on the same page, we are able to connect in many other ways other than "just" sex.
A few ideas for you:
1. Lingerie is the first thing that comes to mind when I read that you want to "spice" up your sex life and get out of the routine
2. Since you two are still preferring sleep over intimacy, creating an environment that enables intimacy is probably most important. This includes everything from leading up to the weekend (days before, begin playful touching, nice compliments and acknowledgments of each other, love notes on voicemail or in wallet, telling him you are looking forward to this weekend, etc). I do not know if you have a babysitter, the entire weekend or just an evening, but also not putting too much pressure on yourselves with specific outcomes/goals. Just spending quality time together can be great and relaxing. Doing something the day-of that is physically active, eating healthy and having fun by feeling emotionally and mentally connected are the best ways to have the evening end in physical intimacy that is "spicy".
3. A new location always spices things up. Book a hotel room for the evening (if possible), "camp" outside in your backyard or living room (with baby monitor) for a fun change of scenery.
4. Make sure your husband is on the same page. Talk about what you each would like out of this weekend, so that you two do not have opposite or mixed "goals" in mind that conflict.
Good luck!
September 23, 2010 - 1:16pmThis Comment
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