So if I am understanding what you are saying, you don't trust most girls, and you especially don't trust your girlfriend. This is a problem. If you never trust anyone, they will often respond by not being trustworthy. Especially if you bully them about it. They come to resent that and decide to give you what you seem to be asking for.
I would dig into what it is inside you that has decided you cannot trust anyone. This is far more important than what your girlfriend is or isn't doing. You are obsessing on behaviors you imagine she is doing, and then distrusting her based on this fantasy. That is not healthy at all. You will lose her over this. No one wants to be treated that way.
Put yourself in your girlfriend's place. You tell her the truth, she calls you a liar. You have male and female friends, she assumes you are sleeping with all of them and wants to fight about it. Sounds a little ridiculous, doesn't it?
You are both entitled to friends of either sex, and you are both entitled to trust unless you are found to be dishonest. It sounds like you have a big trust issue that you need to work out to have a successful relationship. I wish you much luck and if you are able, I think counseling would be helpful for you. Trust issues are tough and can follow you through life if you don't get hold of them.
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Hi Mehdi
So if I am understanding what you are saying, you don't trust most girls, and you especially don't trust your girlfriend. This is a problem. If you never trust anyone, they will often respond by not being trustworthy. Especially if you bully them about it. They come to resent that and decide to give you what you seem to be asking for.
I would dig into what it is inside you that has decided you cannot trust anyone. This is far more important than what your girlfriend is or isn't doing. You are obsessing on behaviors you imagine she is doing, and then distrusting her based on this fantasy. That is not healthy at all. You will lose her over this. No one wants to be treated that way.
Put yourself in your girlfriend's place. You tell her the truth, she calls you a liar. You have male and female friends, she assumes you are sleeping with all of them and wants to fight about it. Sounds a little ridiculous, doesn't it?
You are both entitled to friends of either sex, and you are both entitled to trust unless you are found to be dishonest. It sounds like you have a big trust issue that you need to work out to have a successful relationship. I wish you much luck and if you are able, I think counseling would be helpful for you. Trust issues are tough and can follow you through life if you don't get hold of them.
Thank you for writing.
October 6, 2010 - 6:05amThis Comment
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