Every man needs release, it's instinctive and is a bodily urge. There is no stopping it and it requires an extreme amount of self control not to masturbate. I'd say most males will succumb after a few days, there is no controlling this behavior short of a chastity device.
As the prostate hardens, the testicles and vessels fill up and the Cowper gland becomes fuller it becomes increasingly hard to not masturbate. Once a male reaches 75~ ish days of none release the body itself will begins to slowly excrete semen en fluids through urination, even wet dreams with ejaculation are common.
Masturbation is completely normal. If your against it because of religious beliefs, tough luck. Human anatomy will always win. I cringe when i hear religious mothers scolding their sons for something so natural.
Personally i feel that a healthy sex life at age 40~ should be around 2 to 7 times a week but not a day less, this can vary if there are kids involved or during times of extreme stress but the general rule would be at least twice a week. You both have to create time and space for such a matter and it should not always be instigated by the same person. If you do more then two times a week, it could involve some quickies or just hands/oral.
If your husband only sits in front of his computer to jerk off every day and completely ignores his wife then there's a big problem. It may be because he has a sexual fetish and does not wish to tell his wife. It may be because he's addicted to watching porn and getting off or that it simply just became a habbit. There could be a variety of issues that caused this.
I'm not married, i'm 29 and i have sex every day with my GF. We have had some dry spells of a few weeks during some stressful events but nothing major. Were in a 4 year committed relationship. I put effort into our sex life, that includes toys such as a hitachi, clit tickler, some light bondage gear as handcuffs, blindfold. Also buy lingerie/costumes and we play some role playing games.
Even if i had sex that day, i still masturbate once in a while during the morning, day or evening when i feel this overwhelming urge. I could have had sex during the night and still feel the need to masturbate in the morning. My GF knows and it happens, she has caught me doing it and usuals sticks around and watches, encourages me on, helps, joins me to watch each other masturbate and often it could lead to sex. Yes that does mean i watch porn where 19 year olds are getting rammed, but i could just as easily watch a mature 40 year old getting plowed. Honestly i doesn't really matter to me i just have an extreme urge to get to the finish line. I told my GF upfront i sometimes masturbate even on days when we have sex. When i was younger and girl friendless i would often do it at least once a day, most times it was several times a day. Wake up with boner -> release, get turned on for whatever reason(sometimes no reason at all) during the day -> release, come home/lay in bed -> release. I have a high libido and i don't always wish to bother my GF, in fact i often have to force her to help me out if she isn't feeling fresh down there and wants to skip a day. Sometimes i often feel guilty with constantly trying to have sex with her, but she loves it - or so she tells me but i still have doubts, and i admit i have skipped having sex wit her because i felt it would be to many times. I instigate more but my GF does as well, i never say no, she sometimes does say no but that's usually due to that time of the month related issue, but honestly i don't mind - she does.
Everything falls back onto communication, if you can't have an open and honest conversation with you SO without making someone out to be the bad person, playing the blame game your doomed and the relationship itself will eventually fail. Men are different then woman, we do not take hints, or can understand what your thinking/implying. Just tell us in a simple laid out way what the problem is and what and we'll understand and then both of you will be able to work out a solution to the problem.
If you immidiatly say to your husband: your gonna stop this filthy behavior or I'm leaving you, he's better off without you. You can't force someone to stop masturbating and then all of a sudden have sex with you again, it does not work.
If you say that you feel neglected, hurt and feel ugly because he's watching those younger woman and doesn't spend enough time with you in bed that's a whole different ballpark.
You can grab the male libido for a daily release and have sex everyday if you play your cards right! Or you can continue to make him feel guilty, telling him what he is allowed to do and forbidden to do and see where that leads you, it won't be happiness i can guarantee it.
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Feminists up in this donkey show pfff.
Every man needs release, it's instinctive and is a bodily urge. There is no stopping it and it requires an extreme amount of self control not to masturbate. I'd say most males will succumb after a few days, there is no controlling this behavior short of a chastity device.
As the prostate hardens, the testicles and vessels fill up and the Cowper gland becomes fuller it becomes increasingly hard to not masturbate. Once a male reaches 75~ ish days of none release the body itself will begins to slowly excrete semen en fluids through urination, even wet dreams with ejaculation are common.
Masturbation is completely normal. If your against it because of religious beliefs, tough luck. Human anatomy will always win. I cringe when i hear religious mothers scolding their sons for something so natural.
Personally i feel that a healthy sex life at age 40~ should be around 2 to 7 times a week but not a day less, this can vary if there are kids involved or during times of extreme stress but the general rule would be at least twice a week. You both have to create time and space for such a matter and it should not always be instigated by the same person. If you do more then two times a week, it could involve some quickies or just hands/oral.
If your husband only sits in front of his computer to jerk off every day and completely ignores his wife then there's a big problem. It may be because he has a sexual fetish and does not wish to tell his wife. It may be because he's addicted to watching porn and getting off or that it simply just became a habbit. There could be a variety of issues that caused this.
I'm not married, i'm 29 and i have sex every day with my GF. We have had some dry spells of a few weeks during some stressful events but nothing major. Were in a 4 year committed relationship. I put effort into our sex life, that includes toys such as a hitachi, clit tickler, some light bondage gear as handcuffs, blindfold. Also buy lingerie/costumes and we play some role playing games.
Even if i had sex that day, i still masturbate once in a while during the morning, day or evening when i feel this overwhelming urge. I could have had sex during the night and still feel the need to masturbate in the morning. My GF knows and it happens, she has caught me doing it and usuals sticks around and watches, encourages me on, helps, joins me to watch each other masturbate and often it could lead to sex. Yes that does mean i watch porn where 19 year olds are getting rammed, but i could just as easily watch a mature 40 year old getting plowed. Honestly i doesn't really matter to me i just have an extreme urge to get to the finish line. I told my GF upfront i sometimes masturbate even on days when we have sex. When i was younger and girl friendless i would often do it at least once a day, most times it was several times a day. Wake up with boner -> release, get turned on for whatever reason(sometimes no reason at all) during the day -> release, come home/lay in bed -> release. I have a high libido and i don't always wish to bother my GF, in fact i often have to force her to help me out if she isn't feeling fresh down there and wants to skip a day. Sometimes i often feel guilty with constantly trying to have sex with her, but she loves it - or so she tells me but i still have doubts, and i admit i have skipped having sex wit her because i felt it would be to many times. I instigate more but my GF does as well, i never say no, she sometimes does say no but that's usually due to that time of the month related issue, but honestly i don't mind - she does.
Everything falls back onto communication, if you can't have an open and honest conversation with you SO without making someone out to be the bad person, playing the blame game your doomed and the relationship itself will eventually fail. Men are different then woman, we do not take hints, or can understand what your thinking/implying. Just tell us in a simple laid out way what the problem is and what and we'll understand and then both of you will be able to work out a solution to the problem.
If you immidiatly say to your husband: your gonna stop this filthy behavior or I'm leaving you, he's better off without you. You can't force someone to stop masturbating and then all of a sudden have sex with you again, it does not work.
If you say that you feel neglected, hurt and feel ugly because he's watching those younger woman and doesn't spend enough time with you in bed that's a whole different ballpark.
You can grab the male libido for a daily release and have sex everyday if you play your cards right! Or you can continue to make him feel guilty, telling him what he is allowed to do and forbidden to do and see where that leads you, it won't be happiness i can guarantee it.
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