You know, now that you mention it he does always clean up the house and is always there to pick up slack on rent or whatever I need. So maybe I'm just not noticing the things he is doing to show me he loves me, and they're just in more subtle ways.
HAHAHA! Funny you ask! His family did come from Ireland so he actually is Irish! :P
I have many friends and I do go out occasionally. Probably not as much as I should, but that's just becasue I enjoy spending time with him. I have very, close, supportive friends who I can talk to and are here for me, so my support system is good. =)
He isn't in to any treatment yet, we're working on getting his insurance squared away. Though on the positive side, him and I identified his depression together and he has acknowledged it and admitted that he needs to do something for it. At first I thought he would be reluctant to going to an actual doctor so I found more natural remedies, but he approached me later and said that he thinks he needs to actually get prescribed something. He does not exercise, though he does want to start. I hope he does because he's gained like 30lbs since we've been together. >.< Not that I'm any less attracted to him, just makes me worried that it could continue down this path.
With talking to you I think I have realized that his depression seems to be the brunt of all of our issues right now. He's always very irritable and quick to anger with me. We recently had a spat the other day and as the fight went on we got off topic of the actual issue and he began saying things like he "wished I didn't love him so I would leave him and he wouldn't have to deal with this stuff anymore" (referring to the stress of the argument) IT really hurt my feelings and freaked me out when he said that, I get the feeling he's trying to push me away as he has already done so to some of his friends. I think as of right now I need to be supportive of him and put my problems on the back burner until he is in a better place. I don't feel that he has the ability to put the effort forth to focus on my issues because he's wrapped up in his own..
I know this is what you do, but thank you so much for talking to me. I've talked to so many people that know me personally but I really needed to get some help on our relationship from an outside perspective.
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You know, now that you mention it he does always clean up the house and is always there to pick up slack on rent or whatever I need. So maybe I'm just not noticing the things he is doing to show me he loves me, and they're just in more subtle ways.
HAHAHA! Funny you ask! His family did come from Ireland so he actually is Irish! :P
I have many friends and I do go out occasionally. Probably not as much as I should, but that's just becasue I enjoy spending time with him. I have very, close, supportive friends who I can talk to and are here for me, so my support system is good. =)
He isn't in to any treatment yet, we're working on getting his insurance squared away. Though on the positive side, him and I identified his depression together and he has acknowledged it and admitted that he needs to do something for it. At first I thought he would be reluctant to going to an actual doctor so I found more natural remedies, but he approached me later and said that he thinks he needs to actually get prescribed something. He does not exercise, though he does want to start. I hope he does because he's gained like 30lbs since we've been together. >.< Not that I'm any less attracted to him, just makes me worried that it could continue down this path.
With talking to you I think I have realized that his depression seems to be the brunt of all of our issues right now. He's always very irritable and quick to anger with me. We recently had a spat the other day and as the fight went on we got off topic of the actual issue and he began saying things like he "wished I didn't love him so I would leave him and he wouldn't have to deal with this stuff anymore" (referring to the stress of the argument) IT really hurt my feelings and freaked me out when he said that, I get the feeling he's trying to push me away as he has already done so to some of his friends. I think as of right now I need to be supportive of him and put my problems on the back burner until he is in a better place. I don't feel that he has the ability to put the effort forth to focus on my issues because he's wrapped up in his own..
I know this is what you do, but thank you so much for talking to me. I've talked to so many people that know me personally but I really needed to get some help on our relationship from an outside perspective.
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