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I think self absorbtion is healthy when someone has been hurt and taken advantage of and has not recovered from their emotional abuse/trauma. This brings us back to the fundamental argument of 'givers vs. takers'. Sometimes giving too much has caused folks to be trodden on and they have vowed never to treat themselves like dirt again or allow anyone else to either. So the narcissim or self absorbtion becomes like a wall between the self and others -- a layer of protection. Moreover, if one knows what one needs and wants in life, there is no harm in being self focussed to reach those goals -- as long as no one get's hurt. The last thing to remember is that not everyone has very high affiliation needs -- these people don't need people as much as 'normal' people do -- I am an only child, and have learnt how to live alone, entertain myself, develop interests and hobbies and find people to be the source of noise and chaos. I'm happier being alone or with very few close people. It is quite reasonable to say that if another person has nothing much to teach you or contribute to your life and you have no common background, why waste time trying to fit in?

June 11, 2014 - 5:18am

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