I'm very sorry you're going through this. It does seem that therapy for both of you may help. However, if he doesn't want help then it may be that he has already fallen out of love and doesn't want to hurt you by actually saying the words "I don't love you" or he may simply be confused. The truth is that there can be a dozen reasons why a man asks for a divorce but it all boils down to whether he still loves you and wants to share his life with you or not.
When one person in the relationship wants out, there really isn't much the other can do about it but painfully accept it. He may be going through a "funk" and not really mean what he said but let him realize that on his own without you negating his feelings. You can still go on getting therapy whether it is with or without him. It may be very helpful for you at this moment, actually.
Do you have family members nearby? Friends to talk to? Please let us know if you need any resources and keep us updated.
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Dear Anon,
I'm very sorry you're going through this. It does seem that therapy for both of you may help. However, if he doesn't want help then it may be that he has already fallen out of love and doesn't want to hurt you by actually saying the words "I don't love you" or he may simply be confused. The truth is that there can be a dozen reasons why a man asks for a divorce but it all boils down to whether he still loves you and wants to share his life with you or not.
When one person in the relationship wants out, there really isn't much the other can do about it but painfully accept it. He may be going through a "funk" and not really mean what he said but let him realize that on his own without you negating his feelings. You can still go on getting therapy whether it is with or without him. It may be very helpful for you at this moment, actually.
Do you have family members nearby? Friends to talk to? Please let us know if you need any resources and keep us updated.
December 11, 2010 - 6:38amThis Comment
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