Hi Momo30,
I'm sorry you have been through a lot recently. No doubt you have a lot to deal with and it all may be really confusing. Have you considered talking with a counselor? It may be good for you to work through the feelings and make sure you are making sound decisions that will help you continue to move forward. Regardless of what happens between you and this boy, you should keep close tabs on what you need and how it all will impact you. Selfish or not, you've got to do what's right for you. If a man told me at your age (and knowing what you've been through together) that he doesn't see things going long term, I would run for the hills. At your age, I was pretty sure I wasn't going to make a career out of dating anyone, and if a guy wanted to be with me, he had to drive pretty hard to the goal to make it happen otherwise I was on my way. But that's me. Like I said, my opinion is you have to do what is right for you. But knowing what you've been through, you may need to do some soul searching to figure out what that is. I imagine an abortion can be an emotionally tough thing to grapple with, and the pending relationship surrounding that can be confusing, especially if you thought you weren't ready for any of it. A counselor/therapist can help you with that.
Take care and let us know how you're doing.
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Hi Momo30,
January 3, 2011 - 8:07amI'm sorry you have been through a lot recently. No doubt you have a lot to deal with and it all may be really confusing. Have you considered talking with a counselor? It may be good for you to work through the feelings and make sure you are making sound decisions that will help you continue to move forward. Regardless of what happens between you and this boy, you should keep close tabs on what you need and how it all will impact you. Selfish or not, you've got to do what's right for you. If a man told me at your age (and knowing what you've been through together) that he doesn't see things going long term, I would run for the hills. At your age, I was pretty sure I wasn't going to make a career out of dating anyone, and if a guy wanted to be with me, he had to drive pretty hard to the goal to make it happen otherwise I was on my way. But that's me. Like I said, my opinion is you have to do what is right for you. But knowing what you've been through, you may need to do some soul searching to figure out what that is. I imagine an abortion can be an emotionally tough thing to grapple with, and the pending relationship surrounding that can be confusing, especially if you thought you weren't ready for any of it. A counselor/therapist can help you with that.
Take care and let us know how you're doing.
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