I disagree with the previous post. I am in love with a married man, who loves me. Why did he seek comfort, companionship, and amazing sex with me, a stunning woman, size 18 age 47? Because his thin, toned, sculpted wife doesn't excite him! Not mentally, not physically, not even with her wit or personality. He married a "trophy" wife and she thinks sex is supposed to be hot because she lays there and she's a "10". Foolishly he fell for the media and peer pressure to marry a young thin pretty wife after his first marriage.
We met, sparks flew and he enjoyed the best sex of his life with me. Why? I am confident, intelligent, pretty, and proud of who I am. I know I am not what the media or you OP, feels is the so called beauty ideal. I stand 5'8". with long raven locks of hair that fall to my waist, onyx eyes that sparkle and show my fire and passion, a million watt smile, hourglass figure and OMG a belly, far from perky breasts, cellulite and stretch marks! (The latter from bearing my amazing daughters).
He has shared a love and passion with me for over a year. He recently said he had to fight reacting when his wife was harping on a woman for being maybe 10-15 lbs overweight. She actually said, "How could any man find that attractive?" He said my images of our love making suddenly filled his thoughts the instant she criticized that woman's body, and the he calmly stated beauty isn't just being a size 4.
Why does he find me so beautiful and sexy? Well, I do know how to make love, to please and be pleased. I have no insecurities about my mind, my soul, my accomplishments and my body. I ignite him, and let him smolder, immersed with desire. Then I satisfy myself and in doing so, I satisfy him in ways he can barely believe.
I make him laugh, he makes me laugh. We are old enough to have learned not to pick and criticize. Ours is a case of lightning striking. If I was miserable about my belly, or jiggly thighs, how could he love them? I was blessed to earn 2 degrees, travel the world, live, love, lose and remain unjaded. Money and materialism mean little to me.
I love freely, with wild abandon and joy. I give freely, love is a wonderful thing and if more people had love, starting with self love, the world could be a much brighter place for all.
I know he loves his wife, flaws and all. He loves me flaws and all. He's learning that love doesn't have to mean throwing away someone else. There's no losers. This is how parents can love many children. When he's ready he may leave her. He knows she isn't strong. I told him there's no sense fighting and divorcing, losing the value in his home, retirement accounts, no need to hurt the adult children.
I don't care if he leaves her, or falls back in love with her. I want him to be happy, and I am already happy. No matter where this ends up taking us, I will be blessed to have been in his heart, and he will not have suffered for loving me. However long we have each other is a blessing.
Perfect love in a imperfect situation. He isn't quite sure of this love. Like most of us he's been raised to feel love is only ok in a monogamous relationship. I would never ask him to choose, or do anything that hurts him. If he can breathe and find his footing with this triad, great. Lucky man to have two women love him. If not, I will kiss him a final time and send him away with my blessing.
OP, are you tall, chiseled, with perfect skin, flawless smile, six pack abs and a full head of hair? Do you love with abandon, are you kind to others? Looks fade, and it's what the soul, the spirit is that we are left facing as we age. Spend your life in the gym, pay for plastic surgery, diet and while that's happening so is life. Being fit is a relative concept. How fit is your capacity to love?
While I am at it, are you fit to be loved? Can you love without your eyes? Does your heart soar when the one you love wrap her arms around you? Does her kiss rob you of your breath, and steal your words? Does time stand still when she laughs? Or are you too busy measuring her BMI, buying her Lean Cuisine and asking how Weight Watchers is going? Do disfigured people deserve love and passion? Or the aged? How about minorities? So why not someone who you or anyone, might call fat??
To the woman who this thread is in regards to. Love yourself, every cell, every freckle, every beautiful thing and every flaw. Find a man who adores that you are centered happy and have a positive outlook. Find someone who, like you, will find the blush of youth and beauty fades. The moral of Beauty and the Beast is that if you love the person and not the box (body) they come in, you could be happy for many decades.
Sex, it's great, I will go so far to say it's the most exquisite pleasure I've been blessed to experience. With this man I am left in awe from the pleasure he brings me. As it turns out, I've lost 80 pounds since we met. I was losing the weight before I knew him. I am losing maybe another 25pounds, but not for anyone but myself. I don't aspire to be thin. In fact I hope to be a happy size 12/14. If not, I feel better now than 80 pounds ago.
All I can say is there's no magic weight, hair color, perfume, or outfit that will guarantee love will come. If you wait until you fit your skinny jeans, or get that perfect job, or drive the right car you miss the point. Life doesn't wait, nor does it care if you have minty fresh breath or go to church. Look around, each breath is a gift. Don't waste a single heartbeat worrying if some self centered guy thinks you measure up.
It's not how many breaths you take, it's what takes away your breath.
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I disagree with the previous post. I am in love with a married man, who loves me. Why did he seek comfort, companionship, and amazing sex with me, a stunning woman, size 18 age 47? Because his thin, toned, sculpted wife doesn't excite him! Not mentally, not physically, not even with her wit or personality. He married a "trophy" wife and she thinks sex is supposed to be hot because she lays there and she's a "10". Foolishly he fell for the media and peer pressure to marry a young thin pretty wife after his first marriage.
We met, sparks flew and he enjoyed the best sex of his life with me. Why? I am confident, intelligent, pretty, and proud of who I am. I know I am not what the media or you OP, feels is the so called beauty ideal. I stand 5'8". with long raven locks of hair that fall to my waist, onyx eyes that sparkle and show my fire and passion, a million watt smile, hourglass figure and OMG a belly, far from perky breasts, cellulite and stretch marks! (The latter from bearing my amazing daughters).
He has shared a love and passion with me for over a year. He recently said he had to fight reacting when his wife was harping on a woman for being maybe 10-15 lbs overweight. She actually said, "How could any man find that attractive?" He said my images of our love making suddenly filled his thoughts the instant she criticized that woman's body, and the he calmly stated beauty isn't just being a size 4.
Why does he find me so beautiful and sexy? Well, I do know how to make love, to please and be pleased. I have no insecurities about my mind, my soul, my accomplishments and my body. I ignite him, and let him smolder, immersed with desire. Then I satisfy myself and in doing so, I satisfy him in ways he can barely believe.
I make him laugh, he makes me laugh. We are old enough to have learned not to pick and criticize. Ours is a case of lightning striking. If I was miserable about my belly, or jiggly thighs, how could he love them? I was blessed to earn 2 degrees, travel the world, live, love, lose and remain unjaded. Money and materialism mean little to me.
I love freely, with wild abandon and joy. I give freely, love is a wonderful thing and if more people had love, starting with self love, the world could be a much brighter place for all.
I know he loves his wife, flaws and all. He loves me flaws and all. He's learning that love doesn't have to mean throwing away someone else. There's no losers. This is how parents can love many children. When he's ready he may leave her. He knows she isn't strong. I told him there's no sense fighting and divorcing, losing the value in his home, retirement accounts, no need to hurt the adult children.
I don't care if he leaves her, or falls back in love with her. I want him to be happy, and I am already happy. No matter where this ends up taking us, I will be blessed to have been in his heart, and he will not have suffered for loving me. However long we have each other is a blessing.
Perfect love in a imperfect situation. He isn't quite sure of this love. Like most of us he's been raised to feel love is only ok in a monogamous relationship. I would never ask him to choose, or do anything that hurts him. If he can breathe and find his footing with this triad, great. Lucky man to have two women love him. If not, I will kiss him a final time and send him away with my blessing.
OP, are you tall, chiseled, with perfect skin, flawless smile, six pack abs and a full head of hair? Do you love with abandon, are you kind to others? Looks fade, and it's what the soul, the spirit is that we are left facing as we age. Spend your life in the gym, pay for plastic surgery, diet and while that's happening so is life. Being fit is a relative concept. How fit is your capacity to love?
While I am at it, are you fit to be loved? Can you love without your eyes? Does your heart soar when the one you love wrap her arms around you? Does her kiss rob you of your breath, and steal your words? Does time stand still when she laughs? Or are you too busy measuring her BMI, buying her Lean Cuisine and asking how Weight Watchers is going? Do disfigured people deserve love and passion? Or the aged? How about minorities? So why not someone who you or anyone, might call fat??
To the woman who this thread is in regards to. Love yourself, every cell, every freckle, every beautiful thing and every flaw. Find a man who adores that you are centered happy and have a positive outlook. Find someone who, like you, will find the blush of youth and beauty fades. The moral of Beauty and the Beast is that if you love the person and not the box (body) they come in, you could be happy for many decades.
Sex, it's great, I will go so far to say it's the most exquisite pleasure I've been blessed to experience. With this man I am left in awe from the pleasure he brings me. As it turns out, I've lost 80 pounds since we met. I was losing the weight before I knew him. I am losing maybe another 25pounds, but not for anyone but myself. I don't aspire to be thin. In fact I hope to be a happy size 12/14. If not, I feel better now than 80 pounds ago.
All I can say is there's no magic weight, hair color, perfume, or outfit that will guarantee love will come. If you wait until you fit your skinny jeans, or get that perfect job, or drive the right car you miss the point. Life doesn't wait, nor does it care if you have minty fresh breath or go to church. Look around, each breath is a gift. Don't waste a single heartbeat worrying if some self centered guy thinks you measure up.
It's not how many breaths you take, it's what takes away your breath.
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