You are not responsible for his behavior - I know how hard it is to accept this and it can be embarrassing because we want to be in a healthy relationship but the truth is that when you stand back and let his behavior speak for itself, when you stop trying to appease and appeal, things will change. He does this because it works - because you care and you think you can change him and 'maybe this time it'll make a difference' but the truth is that you can't reason him out of this, or love him out of it, or argue him out of it - you can't change him. What you CAN do is focus on you, your decisions, your words, your behavior. This is when change begins to happen and this is when you take back your power. This is ramping up because you are in the cycle of abuse and it will shorten until it's constant - please know you are not a failure. Get some help and get out of this pattern, it's destructive and will continue to pull you down. Hang tight honey. Sending hugs:)
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You are not responsible for his behavior - I know how hard it is to accept this and it can be embarrassing because we want to be in a healthy relationship but the truth is that when you stand back and let his behavior speak for itself, when you stop trying to appease and appeal, things will change. He does this because it works - because you care and you think you can change him and 'maybe this time it'll make a difference' but the truth is that you can't reason him out of this, or love him out of it, or argue him out of it - you can't change him. What you CAN do is focus on you, your decisions, your words, your behavior. This is when change begins to happen and this is when you take back your power. This is ramping up because you are in the cycle of abuse and it will shorten until it's constant - please know you are not a failure. Get some help and get out of this pattern, it's destructive and will continue to pull you down. Hang tight honey. Sending hugs:)
April 2, 2016 - 2:15pmThis Comment
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