i could really use some help. i've been married for 8years. i have 3 small children. i was abused sexually by my bother at a very young age and told my husband before we were married and he still loved and married me. after a couple of years i started remembering the horrors of my childhood as in, i was raped not only by my brother but my father and mother. i of course have been going through a lot, but my husband gets angry at the drop of a hat now. i feel like i'm walking on egg shells around him and find myself glad during the week days because he gone. i feel guilty for feeling that way. every holiday we get in a huge fight because he never remembers to get me anything and makes excuses of why he didn't. yesterday (mothers day) i got up and he asked what i wanted to do that day, i said i wanted to stay home and relax and he could take our kids to the lake to hangout. he said no. kept asking. still no. finally after being guilt tripped into into it i agreed to instead go to his parents house. we ate lunch and the kids were exhausting. i told my husband (IN TEARS) that i couldn't do it. i just couldn't act happy at the lake when i was so tired from being on vacation with them just the week before (with OPEN conected rooms!). he got so angry and threw out every possible thing he could think of to guilt me into staying, and i said no. i then drove of leaving him and the kids at his parents. he called and demanded i go back because i made it awkward for him, and how i ruined the day. i said no. and drove home. later he called acting kind and saying he did the wrong thing. but later that night we talked and he told me i was selfish for leaving and a terrible person and went to far as to call me a bitch (something he's never done before). he got so angry at me that he pinned me on the bed with his knees and raised his fists like he was going to punch me in the face and said "how to like that now bitch?!" i asked if he felt more manly beating up a women. to that he got off and acted all sad and sorry. i fled to my 4yrs daughter's room and slept there. i guess i'm just wondering what to do. i'm at a loss. i feel like i brought this on myself for not remembering the past abuse and he can't handle it. PLEASE HELP!!!
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i could really use some help. i've been married for 8years. i have 3 small children. i was abused sexually by my bother at a very young age and told my husband before we were married and he still loved and married me. after a couple of years i started remembering the horrors of my childhood as in, i was raped not only by my brother but my father and mother. i of course have been going through a lot, but my husband gets angry at the drop of a hat now. i feel like i'm walking on egg shells around him and find myself glad during the week days because he gone. i feel guilty for feeling that way. every holiday we get in a huge fight because he never remembers to get me anything and makes excuses of why he didn't. yesterday (mothers day) i got up and he asked what i wanted to do that day, i said i wanted to stay home and relax and he could take our kids to the lake to hangout. he said no. kept asking. still no. finally after being guilt tripped into into it i agreed to instead go to his parents house. we ate lunch and the kids were exhausting. i told my husband (IN TEARS) that i couldn't do it. i just couldn't act happy at the lake when i was so tired from being on vacation with them just the week before (with OPEN conected rooms!). he got so angry and threw out every possible thing he could think of to guilt me into staying, and i said no. i then drove of leaving him and the kids at his parents. he called and demanded i go back because i made it awkward for him, and how i ruined the day. i said no. and drove home. later he called acting kind and saying he did the wrong thing. but later that night we talked and he told me i was selfish for leaving and a terrible person and went to far as to call me a bitch (something he's never done before). he got so angry at me that he pinned me on the bed with his knees and raised his fists like he was going to punch me in the face and said "how to like that now bitch?!" i asked if he felt more manly beating up a women. to that he got off and acted all sad and sorry. i fled to my 4yrs daughter's room and slept there. i guess i'm just wondering what to do. i'm at a loss. i feel like i brought this on myself for not remembering the past abuse and he can't handle it. PLEASE HELP!!!
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