I'm glad you responded to the person who claims you can just "get out". Marriage is a commitment especially as a Christian. I stayed married for 15 years dealing with emotional abuse by being psychologically controlled. I was angry at myself for always being so independant, yet when it came to my marriage I was extremely submissive.
There always has to be a pivotal point that makes the difference in a woman or a man to make that change. Mine is seeing how my son was being treated exactly the same way. How in the world can a parent ignore their child because they are mad at them when they are supposed to love them unconditionally?
I used to say how can you treat me that way if you are supposed to love me. Amazingly, no matter what I suggested in the way of counseling the person never accepted it. The end result is me finding myself again and them thinking there is nothing wrong with the way they live their life. It leaves a scar on your heart that takes years to repair.
I agree this can happen to man or woman as I have watched my brother deal with many hardships from his wife. I used to always think it was so much easier to leave than to stay, but that truly isn't the case. It is very hard to make a change for yourself especially when kids are involved.
I never wanted my son to have to be alone for weekend trips with his father when he was younger. He was traumatized too many times with episodes of temper tantrums from his dad. At least I could be there to protect him. When he was 10 I realized he could tell on his dad and that it was no longer up to me to try to keep a relationship between them. It would now be up to his father to change his approach and work on the relationship or he would destroy it.
Kudos for speaking on emotional abuse as it is just as damaging to the heart and minds of the spouse and children in the relationship.
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I'm glad you responded to the person who claims you can just "get out". Marriage is a commitment especially as a Christian. I stayed married for 15 years dealing with emotional abuse by being psychologically controlled. I was angry at myself for always being so independant, yet when it came to my marriage I was extremely submissive.
May 9, 2011 - 8:29amThere always has to be a pivotal point that makes the difference in a woman or a man to make that change. Mine is seeing how my son was being treated exactly the same way. How in the world can a parent ignore their child because they are mad at them when they are supposed to love them unconditionally?
I used to say how can you treat me that way if you are supposed to love me. Amazingly, no matter what I suggested in the way of counseling the person never accepted it. The end result is me finding myself again and them thinking there is nothing wrong with the way they live their life. It leaves a scar on your heart that takes years to repair.
I agree this can happen to man or woman as I have watched my brother deal with many hardships from his wife. I used to always think it was so much easier to leave than to stay, but that truly isn't the case. It is very hard to make a change for yourself especially when kids are involved.
I never wanted my son to have to be alone for weekend trips with his father when he was younger. He was traumatized too many times with episodes of temper tantrums from his dad. At least I could be there to protect him. When he was 10 I realized he could tell on his dad and that it was no longer up to me to try to keep a relationship between them. It would now be up to his father to change his approach and work on the relationship or he would destroy it.
Kudos for speaking on emotional abuse as it is just as damaging to the heart and minds of the spouse and children in the relationship.
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