I am experiencing an unexplainable numbness of emotion of lose,I just lost my mom in June 16/10 and my sister in Feb 12/11 and now my father has become very ill and is dying.I feel helpless and so sad.I some how know I have to keep myself going and not to fall into a deep depression but I cannot seem to stop thinking about what is going on with all of this right now.It is all to soon and all so much to take,I am doing my best to cope but sleeping has not been easy. I don't have any one to talk with so I am walking alot to clear my mind in between taking care of my father.I pray for all of us as I know I am not alone.
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Willalee,
I'm so sorry that you're going through this yet again. I can completely understand why you may not want to seek counseling; its not for everyone. But have you considered support groups, like Alison suggested? To feel sad, lonely, and yes even a feeling of depression after so many loses is normal. It would be unnatural not to feel that way. Don't be afraid to show your emotions-- if you feel like you need to cope on your own before seeking groups or others in your same situation that's okay too. Eventually, the people that you'll meet at groups may eventually end up being good friends.
If there is any other way we could help, please let us know. We may be hundreds or thousands of miles away but our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Best wishes,
Rosa
June 20, 2011 - 8:14amThis Comment
I am 50 years old and I really don't have any close friends and my family are all so far away and make it down when it comes near time to plan funeral arrangements.I have been through this and I have been to grieve counselling when my husband passed away at 59 years of age and it didn't do much for me.I just feel some how some way I will have to find my own way of dealing with this and I know it will only make me stronger as a person. I just find it so unreal that so much death could come so soon. thanks for reading and thanks for your concern
June 19, 2011 - 6:08pmThis Comment
You are already a strong person to be dealing with so much, and you are right: it does seem unreal that we want to try to make sense of it.
How can we help? There are many services available to you, and if you feel that you are sinking into depression, it is important to talk with a psychologist. If you did not "click" with your previous counselor, there are other people whom you would have a better rapport with. Other services can include support groups through hospitals or churches.
Other ideas: what do you love to do? Do you have a special interest that you can spend your time indulging in...and possibly meet some new people?
Please let us know how we can help. We can find local resources for you, and EmpowHER also has Groups of women who share their grieving process, as well as expert articles: Emotional Pain: How do I cope?.
June 19, 2011 - 7:07pmThis Comment
Willalee,
I am so sorry for your losses, and want to tell you how important it is to seek counseling. There are many psychologists and counselors who specialize in what is called "grief counseling", and this person can help you sort-through the emotional toll, try to help you make sense of what is going on in your life, as well as provide resources for you. If you believe in a particular faith or religion, your religious leader could also provide these type of services for you.
Please, please reach out to one of these professionals first.
Secondly, can you tell us how old you are? Do you have friends or other family members to talk to?
June 19, 2011 - 1:47pmThis Comment