Hi Musicchild,
Thank you for your question and welcome to EmpowHer. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling down about your husband’s pornography addiction. The first thing you should learn is that his addiction does not reflect anything about your personal appearance or your actions as it is his addiction even though it directly affects you and I know that it is painful.
Is your husband open to the idea that he may have a problem? Here is a website that may be helpful for him if he is open to the idea http://www.sexhelp.com/.
As for your sense of YOU, there are great support groups called Al-Anon which is mainly for the loved ones of alcohol and drug addicts but the idea of addiction is the same. I attended meetings myself from a previous relationship and it certainly helped me understand that THEY (as in the addict) become our addiction and they teach you great steps to remove yourself from your own addiction which is feeling down about yourself and keeping yourself busy searching for his addiction on the computer. Here is their website http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/.
Good luck and I hope this helps.
Missie
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Hi Musicchild,
July 10, 2011 - 8:37amThank you for your question and welcome to EmpowHer. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling down about your husband’s pornography addiction. The first thing you should learn is that his addiction does not reflect anything about your personal appearance or your actions as it is his addiction even though it directly affects you and I know that it is painful.
Is your husband open to the idea that he may have a problem? Here is a website that may be helpful for him if he is open to the idea http://www.sexhelp.com/.
As for your sense of YOU, there are great support groups called Al-Anon which is mainly for the loved ones of alcohol and drug addicts but the idea of addiction is the same. I attended meetings myself from a previous relationship and it certainly helped me understand that THEY (as in the addict) become our addiction and they teach you great steps to remove yourself from your own addiction which is feeling down about yourself and keeping yourself busy searching for his addiction on the computer. Here is their website http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/.
Good luck and I hope this helps.
Missie
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