You're welcome. It's okay if you don't want to use your account-- this is a safe place to post anonymously.
After your update, however, I'm a little more concerned about you. You are not dealing with this situation well because you aren't getting anything positive out of your relationship at this point other than having a boyfriend. Correct me if I'm wrong but you have given up your friends, your life, everything for a man who has a daughter which you gladly accepted to love and now not only have you given everything for him but he may have a second child which could mean that you may have to give even more of you while he keeps giving less and less of him. Your hesitation and not being able to deal is normal-- and I thank you for providing more information. BUT the situation at home is not normal. He is showing you signs of being possessive and controlling. You abiding to his "rules" of changing your phone number or he'll break it let's him know it's okay to tell you what to do. I'm not telling you to argue or start fights when he treats you this way because a person who says things like that may not be a safe one to argue with. But I am telling you to run as fast as you can from this relationship. No one should tell you who you can and cannot speak to, no one should threaten you or your personal items to get you to do what they want, and no one should make you feel like you are obligated to live your life the way they want you to.
Honestly, It's been a 3 year relationship. Believe it or not, turning around and leaving now is only 3 years lost. 5 years from now you may finally realize that this isn't what you want out of life but it may be too late. You may have kids of your own with him that you may have to think about-- and will be in the same predicament as the other two women who had children with him. I normally don't encourage the breaking up of a relationship but he is emotionally abusing you...even if you don't realize it.
Please think about whether this is truly what you want your life to be like.
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Hi Anon,
You're welcome. It's okay if you don't want to use your account-- this is a safe place to post anonymously.
After your update, however, I'm a little more concerned about you. You are not dealing with this situation well because you aren't getting anything positive out of your relationship at this point other than having a boyfriend. Correct me if I'm wrong but you have given up your friends, your life, everything for a man who has a daughter which you gladly accepted to love and now not only have you given everything for him but he may have a second child which could mean that you may have to give even more of you while he keeps giving less and less of him. Your hesitation and not being able to deal is normal-- and I thank you for providing more information. BUT the situation at home is not normal. He is showing you signs of being possessive and controlling. You abiding to his "rules" of changing your phone number or he'll break it let's him know it's okay to tell you what to do. I'm not telling you to argue or start fights when he treats you this way because a person who says things like that may not be a safe one to argue with. But I am telling you to run as fast as you can from this relationship. No one should tell you who you can and cannot speak to, no one should threaten you or your personal items to get you to do what they want, and no one should make you feel like you are obligated to live your life the way they want you to.
Honestly, It's been a 3 year relationship. Believe it or not, turning around and leaving now is only 3 years lost. 5 years from now you may finally realize that this isn't what you want out of life but it may be too late. You may have kids of your own with him that you may have to think about-- and will be in the same predicament as the other two women who had children with him. I normally don't encourage the breaking up of a relationship but he is emotionally abusing you...even if you don't realize it.
Please think about whether this is truly what you want your life to be like.
Rosa
September 12, 2011 - 7:56amThis Comment
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